Overcoming bad logistics
Hey, I'm looking for some help on this current issue I'm working on. I live in NYC and can get a decent stream of matches. However, I do not live within the city center (Manhattan/Brooklyn), I don't have a car, and the women I meet are not keen on meeting up where I live considering the following:
- They live within the city center
- How far it is from where they are
- It being the opposite direction from all of the good parts of the city
This is causing me to set up good dates that are awful logistically and having that be the best case scenario. In one recent example I wasn't able to get a woman I met out of Manhattan, so I resorted to meeting around her. Went very well, I took her to a spot that let her open up and be comfortable with me. While she was interested, she didn't feel like traveling out that far to get to my place. I was still faced with the other issue she had roommates so that was a no go for her. I'm fairly certain I'm doing something wrong here, there's absolutely people in this city who do it all the time, regardless of logistics.
To rethink my strategy, there's several things I could think of doing to address this:
- Move to the city center (obviously, but not as feasible to do as other solutions)
- Screen for women willing to travel further or screen for women closer to me
- Build more investment, perhaps I'm not doing that enough
- Get better at stating my intentions
- Find a place to meet up that's just outside of the borough but quick enough to get an uber ride
Any suggestions? Thanks.
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You kind of answered your own question. The first option is the best one. You've gotta have better logistics. The average of girls are less likely to come to you if you're far. Why? Because they may have someone closer to them who may actually be lesser attractive than you.
The building investment part again has to be taken on a case by case basis. For some women even investment won't be enough and in the time you're trying to build investment, she is thinking to herself "Why isn't he making a move" and also talking to her other options who may pull the trigger earlier than you
Stating intentions don't have to be that explicit. With DTF chicks, you will still run into the same problem that they'll chose the more convenient dick in the end. Until the move happens, the last option is your best bet. Hope that helps
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This helps, thanks. I just now went through two different situations back to back that highlighted my issues, which i'll post on a separate thread soon.