Not being able to tease properly is the #1 reason most guys suck with women
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Teasing is BY FAR the most important factor in regards to good game and I'd say 80-90% of rejections and failed interactions (online and then in person dates) stem from improper or a lack teasing.
Women somehow view you teasing them as building an "emotional connection". The more you tease them, the stronger the "emotional connection" is. You know you teased her properly when she playfully gives you a light smack on the shoulder with a big grin. (This isn't to be confused with a "neg" which where you diminsh her SMV in attempt to decrease her leverage in the interaction. Negging is a type of teasing and there is obviously a time and place for negging brats but that's not what were talking about here.)
A proper tease is so light-hearted that her getting upset would make her look hypersensitive. The hotter the girl, the better your teasing skills need to be.
Basically if you can consistently tease her throughout the date without getting too serious, she is almost guaranteed to feel "chemistry" or a "connection" with you. This is obviously tough to do without coming across as non sensical or combative. Most men are aware they need to tease in order for there to be attraction but suck at coming up with sensical light-hearted teases. Again, it's a tough skill to perfect and requires alot of confidence (not being afraid to bold) and brain power which is why most guys suck at it
You see this play out constantly on here too, the overwhelming majority of guys asking for help (myself included on occasion) throw out nonsensical texts in attempt to look witty/playful but 99% of the time it just seems forced and unnatural. The average guy knows not be "gamey" or try hard but isn't successful becuase they dont really understand the dynamics of teasing. I'm surprised no dating couches has really delved deep into the importance of teasing.
Staying light hearted and playful while still challenging someone (doesn't even have to be a girl) is an extremely tough skill to master becuase it very easy to cross the line into nonsensical, rude, or combative territory. When you tease a woman effectively enough escalation is extremely easy becuase in a woman's mind, she interprets it as an "emotional connection".
I think most people need to see literally 100s of specific examples of proper teasing in a conversation/in person to get good. Also most guys need to improve their sense of humor which I'm not even sure how they can do, maybe studying tv shows and studying the dynamics of comedy possibly.
Super valid point. Another way to develop your sense of humor is having friends who are funny. Obviously it's not easy to find, but if you can, its one of the best ways. I've noticed that whenever I'm talking to someone, I'm able to come up with funny comments and twists much faster now because my friends and I always try to top each other's jokes or continuously add and build on funny interpretations to single topic. It helps too because if your friends do something stupid, they know you're definitely gonna start clowning them, but in good taste. This can easily be translated to teasing a girl.
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Another way of developping a sense of humor is purposeful misinterpretation, its quite easy to do/practice and can get some real fun conversations started, it also generally ties into teasing
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I agree, the right kind of teasing is definitely a powerful tool for attraction. I think it's one of the reasons why guys often succeed with women who they don't care that much about. What has helped me a lot is the constant teasing that I do with my friends which easily translates to doing the same with a girl.