My biggest issue with my text game is I am never sure of the direction for my next move to take the conversation in. I always have the end goal in mind which is setting up a date... But in between, I'm not sure if what I am sending is correct like should I soft close now or is it too soon? Should I banter more? DHV? Qualify her on things she does and talk about traveling? Ask her if she had any boyfriends before and why they broke up with her? Compliance test so I can sexualize the conversation with oral orgasms? I have 2 screenshots here with 2 hotties that I really wanted to close but I have a feeling I messed up already.
This first one when she says "oh my im scared" I thought of so many things I could say but I just went with DHV reply "scared of a tall handsome gentleman with a cute american accent?" she gives me an IOI saying I am a confident person so I just accepted that frame and said "Thanks" and then tried to get her to qualify her on wanting a dominant confident man but then she says she doesnt know what to say. So at this point I was kinda stuck and didnt know what to do so I just went for the soft close, but maybe its too soon? Whats your opinion about these text exchange and what would you have said instead?
As long as she is keen on meeting at this point when I soft close, should I just continue with "Perfect! Lets split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio" and then get her to say "Yes" again and then continue with "Whats your schedule like?" and see if she comes up with any objections?
If she says anything other than yes, such as "Maybe" or "Soon" do you still just assume she wants to meet at your place until she specifically says she says she doesnt want to meet at my room then suggest a bar nearby my house? Or do you figure out why she is saying Maybe or Soon instead of a hard yes? Is it better asking her "When are you free?" or "I'm free Tuesday night and Friday night"?
And the 2nd one, I am starting to lose interest in even though she was the one to ask me to meet her (but she was with a friend...so I tried to set up the next day), I originally was interested in her last week, and would still meet up with her if shes keen, but the fact that she finally replied to me after triple texting her and my re^initiation text "Are you still alive" and then I sent "Ah, I Was waiting for you to message me" and she didn't reply back... Kinda annoys me now and I don't feel like chasing so its making me want to drop her but I feel like if I say to her "Look. I dont like it when people dont respect my time. If you're not interested you can just tell me now, its cool" but I feel like that sounds too butthurt?? so would saying that actually do anything positive for me in the sense that she will actually respect my time and meet me or would it be better to just ghost her and move on?
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Damn bro, hopefully you're not asking the chicks this many questions :)
First chick, several mistakes I see. You use the word trouble way too much. It's just an opener, once you get a response you move on. After she said "take it as a compliment" I would have said something like "defintely, I like a girl with a bit of a wild side". Then, after she said "you are confident", I would have responded with something like "would you prefer if I was shy and timid"
The bigger question came when you said "Steph likes dominant blah blah". It just comes off weird and repetitive. Then after she said "haha I don't know what to say" I wouldn't have tried to go for the close yet. Instead, I would have built more repoire and tried to get her to actually invest in the convo. So to sum this one up, it was a combination of the convo sounding awkward and the premature close. At this point you can follow up with "If youre too nervous, I'd understand".
With the second girl, you have the same issue where a lot of your phrasing sounds awkward. Your close attempt was also a bit sloppy. I would have just said "we should get together sometime soon" and then after she agreed go for a hard close. What you attempting to do was just very sub optimal. Also, "I was waiting for you to message me" sounds really bad in that context. That line is really only meant to be used on bumble after you get the first message. My advice for this one is just to move on, your proposed text sounds really butthurt and doesn't make much logical sense here since you guys never had concrete plans.
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