Mindset on going out meeting girls for a drink at bar instead of them coming to your place
Need help with my mindset on meeting girls out at a bar instead of them coming to my place. I've had very good success with girls coming to my place and smashing but feel like I've missed out on some lays with not wanting to go out and meet a girl for a drink. Im not much of a drinker so when they come over... im usually having water or diet sprite in a cocktail glass when they are having vodka... if we go to a bar i can do they same thing...get there first order a water with lime and when she comes just get her a drink so really only paying price of one drink but since ive had good results with house dates havent been as forthcoming as wanting to meet a girl at bar...almost like if she doesnt want to come to my place then it seems lost...or if even asking her to come to my place makes her not even want to meet me at a bar... havent had good experience with meeting girls at bar except maybe a few makeouts at my place but alot of them end up in not coming back to my place... so am wondering maybe i need to change my mindset on this or if anyone can provide tips or wisdom would greatly appreciate it... need to be comfortable when a girl objects coming to my place that meeting her is next option and its going to work well... ive met some girls at starbucks then came back to my place to smash and even met a couple of girls in parking lot at a store and they drove back and we smashed...so it might have just been the girls... i generally though want to see girls before i meet them in a public place... dont want a girl to show up not looking anything like her picture... maybe thats part of the issue... sometimes ill tell a girl to meet outside the bar before we go in because i want to make sure she looks good...thoughts appreciated...thanks! ps... what alex and pwf has done has been incredible...have had amazing success with dates and girls coming to my place...have a few girls now im seeing but its sporadic because one works weird hours...the other has 2 kids... the other barely has time available so we see each other when we can.. but all of these is from online... and a couple of girls i met in cold approach
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I don't think this really has anything to do with mindset, chicks that want to meet in public on average are going to be less dtf at your place. In terms of strategy you want the bar to be ideally walking distance at your place, once I build some sexual tension ill typically just say lets get out of her, I don't tell them we are going to my place I just lead. When they ask where are we going, I just say "somewhere really romantic". Then by the time they know we are going to my place we are already at my place. At that point most girls will go in, maybe you'll havre to quickly address a concern or objection but most of the time its cool