Met up with this girl today who was a couple of weeks in the making since she was moving to the area this month for her new job. Just how we like to pipeline before moving or visiting a new city.. Women do the exact same thing.

Feels like I’m barely scraping by on Tinder. Like none of my leads right now in my cue are responding but somehow every so often one magically ends up manifesting into a solid lead. This one yet again, feels like another form of luck.

Over text, it was smooth sailing for the most part. I’d put her interest at an even playing field. I didn’t have to re-engage at all which was really nice. She was responding well to my sexts.. which some I put together on my own and weren’t great but I was a bit risk-adverse with my texts since I felt confident here. It was funny as she told me that I should write erotica books. I laugh reading that because some raccoons but “Erotica Writer” in their bio lol.

Gave her the qualification she needed & seeded future projections considering the sexual nature of the conversation. Started to escalate the topic from hypothetical scenarios to acquiring data with what she’s into. & Then putting her at ease that she found a unicorn and even leading her to a place of telling me things she hadn’t quite revealed to other people before at least from what she told me that is.

Curious, but inexperienced. I could tell she was heavy into BDSM. Which was intriguing because in person she told me she didn’t have much experience with it considering she hadn’t been with someone who wasn’t selfish or cared. & Frankly, expected her to lead in bed.

Once she got into town I did re-engage & she did end up attempting to late night booty call me one night.. but she was just acting on impulse and wanted to cuddle. Nothing would have happened had we met that night. Thankfully I did act on her indirect invite, but was able to pull back and didn’t start to chase for the meet to happen.

Day of date comes and she comes over. She kind of reminded me of the doll from the Goosebumps “Bride of the Living Dummy” movie in human form. Lol. Very easy to vibe & talk with. We split a couple of glasses of wine on my balcony as we listen to Bad Bunny. At one point she thanked me for asking questions that no one has asked and making her feel like she can be open and talk about things.

One thing I’ve learned and I often have to remind myself is that women are poorly trained. 99.5% of them don’t have the training, experience of how to properly act, behave, or function in a man to woman relationship of any kind. Some women have never been cuddled or suck at flirting or just were never taught. It’s like training a puppy all over at times.

Talked about my senior prom proposal idea from high school, places I’ve lived. What brought her to the city, her past relationships. “masquerading submissives” & eventually her wanting to know about my non-sexual turn on & sexual turn ons. Started to get hot & heavy and the make out begins, lead her to the bedroom, & sex was had.

This is what’s interesting. Take the girl from today. She was very much easy to vibe, talk, and build sexual tension with. Take the girl from not the last LR but the one before that I just made a post of. I made her laugh, sex was good, made her cum, post-sex cuddles were had, & I opened up about myself. Now she’s saying that she felt the “vibes were off” or that I gave her “theater kid vibes” and started giving me resistance to meet again.

So what’s the difference between the two when I was the exact same person as I was on both dates in terms of my personality, sex. Etc.

Would having had said the exact right thing instead have REALLY made the difference.

Would behaving in a completely different way have REALLY been any better.

Say I did. & I still got the response that I did from her. Well now I’m being “inauthentic” It’s almost like you can never win.

It’s situations like this where you start to completely backwards rationalize your “game” when in reality it’s not your game at all. Just something I’ve been pondering.

Thank you Nav for one of the texts.