Lost v, can’t cum yet but making her Orgasm no problem
I need some advice and I don’t know if here is the right place tbh, but I’ll try anyway since all the feedback I’ve had here before has been great.
I recently lost my v to an older milf a few months back, and we have insane sexual chemistry, we keep seeing each other and the dynamics are fire. The issue is, I’m experiencing the infamous can’t cum problem most guys get when they first start laying pipe, most definitely due to being not used to the v and being a “hand” guy up until now. The good news is I do everything else right, I make her cum with my hands, intense kisses, but my penetration technique needs work, it’s hit and miss, sometimes i cant Even find her hole in time and get flaccid, and I ain’t really feeling too much stimulation by the vagina yet though it’s slowly changing, it ain’t dramatic. basically I’m doing 90% of the stuff by the book, to the point where she doesn’t even believe that it’s my first few times, but the penetration and the cumming part are something I need some fixes with, maybe it’s just a time thing? Keep at it until it falls into place? No doubt some performance anxiety plays a part.
yeah I mean if you are going in there to perform or something that is where "performance anxiety" comes in. You can check out the book "sex god method" maybe you can get a tip or 2
In the off chance you're 50+ checking in with a doc might not hurt
I’m in my late 20s early 30s. I get erect no issue tbh, i think it’s like you said, a mental shift I need to do, stop thinking about performance and just make her cum first with my hands, then after that it’s just exploratory sex to build up my sensitivity and see what I enjoy etc.
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Hey man, so here's what i recommend
1) completely stop jerking off. This will make your dick a lot more sensiitive when you have sex. This alone can solve your problem
2) Smoke a little weed beforehand - For me weed makes me super sensitive and i always wind up cumming much faster
3) ffind what turns you on and don't be afraid to ask for it - for instance i like it when my girlfriend plays with my balls while she rides me. You gotta find your little turn ons and ddon't be afraidd to ask for them
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1. Yh I stopped all of the jerking off a couple weeks ago cold turkey. It definitely helps regain sensitivity, I just think I need a bit of time to adapt to the new sensation of the female anatomy.
2. Maybe a bit of alcohol like wine etc instead? I ain’t much of a smoker tbh.
3. i actually don’t have a huge issue with being turned on, she turns me on plenty tbh, to the point where now it’s just blue balls and pre cum 😂 it’s more of a maintaining the strength issue…sometimes I’m ready to go inside and then the hole is too small, so I get flaccid as a result of waiting and failing to penetrate. Then she’d ride in cowgirl and I ain’t really feeling much, so I’d switch to missionary and start to see her respond to the thrusts. A lot is probably also experimenting with the technique of different positions etc.