Met her on Hinge 3 weeks ago. We did a Facetime, then went on a walk and had sex.
The sex was pretty good and afterward we cuddled for 30 min or so. While cuddling, she mentioned she'd have to head back home to feed her cats at some point.
Then she asked me if I was tired multiple times. I eventually said yes, so she got dressed, I walked her out and told her to text me when she got home (it was pretty late and she had to drive 30 min).
I attached the texting that ensued.
To glean the lessons from this interaction, I'd like to know what I could have done better:
- Should I have offered to let her stay over?(I know Alex mentions this increases his chances of retention in the product)
- Should I have made more of an effort to bang again despite being tired? (Alex also states this helps with retention)
- Was it a mistake to wait 4 days to reach out again?
Would love some outside perspective, thanks.
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depends what u want from her. many girls will def overanalyze first date sex and judge themselves esp if limiting time to connect beforehand. letting her stay over always helps solidify future plans. personally, I always like to do this regardless of where I see the relationship going
4d is also usually a long time. again, depends on what u want. strike while the iron is hot so she doesnt get the chance to judge herself (dont be needy, but show her you are incorporating her into parts of your life). seems you did text her the lunch thing though so you tried a bit
sometimes its just too late though. girls judge themselves hard. sucks but is what it is. in this case, corona is a valid concern so I would also not write her off completely
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Interesting feedback and insight into how women think - an area that fascinates me. Reading between the lines, what led me to believe that Corona was a surface level objection was the following:
- She semi-ghosted me right off the bat.
- Her roommate knew she was going on the walk, so her wrath doesn't add up. Why get upset if you knew about it beforehand?
- When she states "that can't happen again" - those words indicate some sort of anger to me, not the words a girl that would like to continue hanging out after quarantine is over would choose.
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Partially number 3. She texted you later that night which means you didn’t do anything wrong when she was over. I think it’s a combination of that and what she said. She probably did come home to have her paranoid Roomie freak out, the one thing I didn’t like is how you responded to that “totally makes sense”.... fuck that, it makes no sense. I would’ve said “How come” and then destroyed whatever frame the roommate had. “Your roommate does realize that the risk 100x every time you go to the grocery store”
The good news is that you’ll probably see her again after this quarantine nonsense is over