Lesson - You can't just copy. You have to bring a fundamental change.
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I went into this weekend thinking that I had two dates lined up. Unfortunately, both girls flaked. Reason - I had a platonic phone call with each of them before our date. I was nowhere as flirty on the phone call as I was on text. Just copy-pasting these lines won't work. In real life, I can't fake it. I have to make a fundamental change in myself. I have to become that fun and flirty guy. Faking will take me only so far. But the bigger question is - How can I bring this fundamental change? PS - Just to make up for this blunder, I cold approached a smoking hot blonde in the supermarket today. It got nowhere but my confidence is back.
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Yeah man, I also recommend that you skip the phone call next time. If you already have a date set up, then what's the point. You have nothing to gain, but something to lose.
In terms of actually becoming more fun & flirty, that's not gonna happen overnight. It takes a lot of time & effort to change your personality. Also, you have to sort of know yourself. I've always been super goofy and loved cracking jokes and making people laugh. That's why fun & flirty works really well for me. But I have friends who are much more serious, so for them deep connection game works a bit better. A bit of fun & humor is probably good no matter who you are.
However, the issue is not that you're not fun & flirty enough, but rather that your conversations lack any sexual tension and too friend-to-friend. People typically do this because it feels "safer" However, girls want that sexual tension and for you to show intent. I recommend that you practice this, don't filter yourself or "play it safe" For examples, watch some of my videos that have girls in them or check out the TV show "Californication"