I am beginning to notice that some women (particularly younger women 18-24) are testing for investment using a new strategy (probably from some TikTok dating advice videos). I'll preface by saying that I am aware that men are prone to overestimating female interest, but I have enough experience at this point to tell if a woman is playing games or not, and I've noticed that a lot of women are using this particular strategy. I'll refer to it as the left-on-seen test.

This test is when a high-interest girl starts the conversation, seems highly engaged, and then leaves you on seen for basically no reason. It is confusing, but that is their goal. They want you to chase/pursue them more than you currently are to test your interest level. It's a particularly bad strategy because it's filtering for confidence, not interest even though that is not the intent. Most men will feel rejected if they get left-on-seen like this so they stop pursuing, even if they had a genuine interest. Then consequently, the woman will also feel rejected when the man doesn't pass the test by double texting even though the man in question was actually interested. From a woman's perspective (especially one with low self-esteem), high confidence is a characteristic that is innate to a man. So when a man takes this kind of test as a rejection and doesn't double text, the woman will take it as a sign of disinterest because they aren't even entertaining the possibility that their behavior is causing the man to feel rejected and walk away. I would have never believed that women genuinely thought like this until I read through multiple TikTok comment sections with the majority of women thinking along these lines.

It's important to note that this is really only applicable when it seems like there is no other reason to be left-on-seen. For example, if you were too forward or boring and the girl never really gave you any reason to believe that she has high interest in you, then she probably just has low interest.

One example I've had recently was this girl I had been talking to that sent me a TikTok which said, "all guys cheat so you might as well get played by a 10 and not a 2." When I asked her why she sent that video to me she said I was hot and that she was expecting me to play her. This is a clear indication of both high interest and low self-esteem (exactly the type of girl that would play games like this). She did the left-on-seen test a day later, I picked up on it, double-texted, and fucked her that night.

A similar thing happened a couple of weeks ago where I messed up. I was talking with this Latina who also had very high sexual interest and low self-esteem (and possibly a long-distance boyfriend but not confirmed). When I asked her what she was doing (Thursday night), she left me on delivered (I assume she just went to sleep). In hindsight, I believe she was testing me to see if I would reach out the next day because she texted me at 4 am Friday telling me she was thinking about me and proceeded to leave me on delivered all Saturday. I think she actually might have lost interest in me and felt rejected because I did not reach out unprompted by her. I reached out three days later and at that point, the momentum was lost and she was clearly uninterested.

I had a strict rule of not double texting if it hadn't been at least a couple of days because I did not want to over-pursue, but in situations like these, I think it is better to just swallow your pride and reach out quickly if you get left-on-seen for what seems like no reason. Assuming that the girl wants to be pursued/chased is probably the best default mindset if you have reason to believe a girl is playing games like this.