Leads gone cold
I have a lot of old leads still on my snap and insta. I post the stories regularly and they check everyone of them.
Whenever I reply to their stories they revert back, we have had some conversations, sometimes they send me snaps. But as soon as I invite them over or even try to take them to coffee, it falls apart. Either they dont respond or just say they're busy, i dont try to reschedule coz ofcourse I have tried that too in the past, it goes no where and then it looks like me chasing to get them and they just rejecting.
What'd I do? Should I cut them off? Should I unfriend them.
I have a man to woman frame with them, it's not friendly.
The problem here was I never punished non-compliance because
- I was getting other chicks
- I didn't wanna come off as butt hurt.
So what should I do next, should I
- continue doing my stuff and ignore them
- continue doing my stuff and keep re-engaging ocassionally
- jsut tell them it was nice getting to know them and block them
- jsut tell them it was nice getting to know them and unfriend them
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Personally, I would try to figure out the root cause of them not going out with you. Does the girl like you, but has a concern that can be addressed? Or is she legitimately not interested?
After you invite them out and don't get a response you can follow up with " if you are too nervous, I totally understand". Basically, figure out what exactly is going on first.
i dd a few times but they dont respond and i test the waters a few days later replying to their story and they revert back.
Like again none of these girls have a friend frame with me. What i did notice is some of them its only like meetup talks, so i am tryng to go back
get some investment and make them qualify and then invite them out first and pull.
7 Posts (+1), 50 Cmts (+39)
Punish a girl for rejecting you? You need to find a way to hook them in - if they're being unresponsive, it likely means that there are other guys pursuing them who are more interesting or attractive.
Trying to assert yourself after a girl has made it clear that you're not a priority isn't really a winning move IMO. Something is happening wrong earlier in the chain. Fix it.
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What I mean is when I don't punish non compliance it's basically like "oh you can repeat this behavior, nothings gonna happen"
I need to learn how to be assertive and not sound butthurt. I'm tryna get Mr. Nittin Pabba coaching but he's way toooo busy.
7 Posts (+1), 50 Cmts (+39)
To each their own... I'd recommend saying something that actually grabs their attention rather than trying to take it with assertiveness. Just think about it the other way around... Are you more like to reply to someone who sends you a funny/interesting message, or somebody that is making it clear that they want you to talk to them more?