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What is your closing ratio approximately right now? Also, what city do you live in?
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I've been on a cold streak the last two weeks, Im not tracking stats but I would guess at this point that it's no higher than 60%. Probably half the time is fair. Oakland CA.
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How are you running your dates? You also don't seem to frame it that you're going back to your place.
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This is where I need a ton of work I think. I don't drink, so the wine date doesnt work. Right now, Im meeting them outside my place, bring them in and give them a tour when I have to "step in and grab my coat", usually go for a walk and grab coffee, or to a bar around the corner, I talk about ordering dinner, back to my place to order, go for the makeout, then it's sushi/netflix n chill. I am very open to suggestions here. If you didn't drink, how would you suggest a girl come straight to your place?
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I put way less effort into my dates and usually buy cheap ass wine. If you're getting make outs and no sex from my experience the girl thinks you just want sex. This is fine for some girls, but turns off a lot as well. My conversations are very platonic for a while into the date before slow physical escalation. If the girl isn't super into the make out then I pull back and keep building comfort. If I can't build comfort then I ask her what's up and answer objections. By the time I'm going for the make out I've already held her hand, played with her hair, etc. Be genuinely interested in what she's saying and actively listen. There are surely more optimized ways, but this is what I enjoy.
As for pulling her to your place just make up some excuse "oh let's take a nap/watch a movie/cuddle/etc."
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To keep this brief; yes to that last question. I would say get to know her a little bit more plain and simple. Don’t just go straight for the meet up. Start to be involved with the convo by asking her questions like, “are you from here originally” and so on, although not too much where it becomes an interview just keep things light and flirty. Remember, things like these take some time and effort to build so kind of connection, you know. Don’t be overly pushy and definitive. Text game is like a waltz you take one step she takes another step and etc. Hope this got the message across. You got this homie!
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Totally agree. Im getting a bit robotic, and when the dates arrive it's like "wait, who are you, and where's our vibe?". I'm flirting and investing some today, so hopefully shes a bit warmer tonight
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Exactly! Let it marinate for a bit then reengage with her every so often. So far you’ve been doing pretty good with your posts. A few hiccups here and there but so far solid. Keep the frame you’re setting and just be natural. Now, go get that pussy home spice. Our country is counting on you