Note : I am from Bangalore (India).
I cold approached this young pretty average looking girl.Got her number.
Got her to meet the next day over a hot beverage outside after which I kind of pulled her over to my place though she was not very keen. (It seemed that she
was just nervous/not sure) .
We put on a movie and after a few mins or so I started to escalate but she kept resisting every advance I made. She was okay with hand holding and soft kisses on the cheek but anything more than that was met with resistance.
We had a few beers and got pretty high and even after which I faced resistance to all the moves I made.
After that I gave up and let her rest.Later I dropped her to her place which is close to my place.
I am devastated as this is the first time I was able to pull a chick to my place ever.
Where did I go wrong ?
Is there any hope for me? I am not able to recover from this failure.I feel like giving up.
Not enough compliance. I know girls who do exactly this story to my friends it happens all the time dude. Read some of the LR on here with people cold approach to sex at the house. You’re leaving out the entire story of your conversations at the initial cold approach + date.
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Hi Top G, Your comment made me wonder and the thing you said about missing the context of cold approach + date kinda struck me.
I actually think this is where I went wrong because during both of these events I fucked up the context by letting the convo slip away to random subjects rather than making it purely or majorly about hooking up etc.
Thanks for the insight.
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Hey man. This is Indian Pe using alex's account. I don't mean to be rude but I'm genuinely chuckling at this because I've had this situation 100's of times. And I still didn't lose hope. Great job on getting your first pull ever. I promise you, that you will fail a lotta times before getting success. I think in this situation, you need to analyze what mistakes you made. When there was resistance making moves, how did you react? Were you angry/sad? Or any negative emotion? Or did you just brush it off. Women can smell desperation and if they sense it, they will be turned off very quickly. In the meantime, look at some of these guides
https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-build-sexual-tension-and-make-a-woman-horny/
playingfire.com/how-to-have-sex-on-first-date/
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Hi Indian PE , appreciate the response man.
I am pretty sure I didn't come around as desperate.
When I analysed the incident later after reading PWF Community user Top G's comment on my post, I realised that the context setting during the cold approach and during the date was not very strong.
The whole discussion became about job/career etc with very little context of hooking up etc.
Also, there were 2 massive red flags that I realized later. One, when I hugged her before the date, she gave me that half assed sideways hug and second she was very shabbily dressed when she came outside to meet me (even by the instant meetup standards).
These 2 red flags were indications that was she was not seriously sexually available at that point which I overlooked at that moment.
During the cold approach, I screen girls for sexual availablity and this girl gave me evidence that she is sexually available (she was very comfortable with prolonged hand holding and also pressed my hand while we parted) and this is why I pushed her for the date the very next day.
But the next day when she agreed for an instant date, I now realise that she was under a bit of stress due to her job/career situation.
I should have :
1.Read the red flags properly.
2.Context setting during the cold approach and date should have been clearly only sexual.
When I met resistance during escalating, I am sure I was a bit surprised but didn't come as sad/angry/desperate etc.
I saved all those emotions for later 🤣
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
@Indian PE