The woman I’m seeing is much older than me, been seeing each other for a few months now. She ends up telling me 3 weeks into the interaction that she’s “married” when we had a room booked etc, and she had already fucked me the day before as well. So I decided to dig deeper and it’s the typical long term relationship that had soured afyer a few years, they have a child though, But unofficially married. Guy ain’t fucked her in a year and they don’t live together. So I ain’t breaking up a happy home type stuff.

Anyway, I made it clear to her the situation, how she’s still technically with another guy and I’m gonna see others maybe if I want to, because she was trying to question why I want to see others, and I know she’s starting to catch feelings heavy, we have intense sexual chemistry, wild animalistic public sexual affection type stuff, raw penetration etc. I know she’s falling in love and it’s going to result in another moment of friction, we had an argument already once, because she didn’t accept my honesty that i may have a few other girls I’ll see at some point, but I ain’t seeing anybody at this moment truthfully, and she accepted my stance after a few days of no contact. she actually ended up telling her guy about us and he’s gone from not caring about her to blowing up her phone when she’s with me randomly on video calls, worrying that he’s gonna lose her. we’d be together and she gets the video call and then I gotta leave the vicinity, or she recently just ignores it. I can tell I’m the guy that she’s using as revenge in some ways.

How do I maintain this situation without it blowing up ? She’s telling me she is gonna leave the guy regardless for her own peace but that may pigeon hole me into a commitment or something if she expects to leave one for the other, which ain’t happening. Honestly, I’d have dipped if it was a legit marriage and family dynamics because I cba to mess with that headache when there’s plenty of other women out there.