How to handle girl who’s being a bit difficult to make plans with
58 Posts (+11), 40 Cmts (+1)
This is the same girl I’ve posted about a few times now. I finally was able to close and gave her a choice of sat or sun for our date. I probably should’ve Jaír went right with like Saturday at x time, but I wanted to give options just in case. She responds with a stupid excuse that seems like she’s ignoring the date kind of. I was thinking of saying something along the lines of “let’s go out Saturday night and I’ll have you back to your friends in an hour”. I think using a false time constraint could be good here because I know if we meet I can close. Any other response ideas? Thanks for the help
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12 Posts (+9), 229 Cmts (+105)
Id just say "yeah" and then just ghost her for a while or until she hits me up personally, but bro... If you're actually that busy then cool but otherwise just try texting her in a timely fashion. If you genuinely don't want to text her or are still learning and dont know what to say then don't text but i find many guys play that waiting game when that would much rather text her. You don't have to wait 4 hrs after each txt or something ridiculous. She's subconsciously tryin to help ya. Be as genuine as you can muster i say.
58 Posts (+11), 40 Cmts (+1)
Yeah you’re right. I have been legitimately busy for the past two weeks, which is why I’m seriously trying to make plans now. You thinking ghosting her is my best case scenario to see her instead of just being direct?
12 Posts (+9), 229 Cmts (+105)
nah dont ghost then(since you were gone so long). If you really like this girl talk to her like you do. She just wants you to add value so she doesnt feel bad. Not only are you a stranger, youre a stranger off a dating app that is known for one night stands lol. If I was the girl I'd want more comfort too. Build a vibe with her if you can imo
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
"Nah. I believe in writing my own fate and taking initiative. What evenings are you free next for a couple hours?"
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
I would not respond to that. I can't stand chicks like this. Only way it'll work is if she organically sees you with another girl out somewhere or perhaps online
58 Posts (+11), 40 Cmts (+1)
I completely agree. The thing is I’m not currently active on dating apps and yeah it’s possible I see her out but that’s like a toss up. It’s way more likely I’ll close and it will go well if I actually go out with her. I say that because I know 2 of her friends and they cock blocked me last time with one of their other friends. I’m thinking of saying something like let’s meet Sunday night a x time and if not I’ll move on. Just cause personally ghosting isn’t really my thing. Do you have any thoughts for an alternative option?
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
"well that's a bit vague, you'll have to give me a time and place where y'all will be, & I'll do my best"