How to continue here. Girl rejected me. Reaches out back

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I will add the screenshots here, so it makes sense.
Basically I hung out with this girl for a while, and realized she ́s my type after a while and asked her out, rejected me month and a half ago. Not in a direct way, but indirect, I never got a straight no in person. I tried flirting after that, and moving it forward, she would play dumb or ignore or dismiss it. I started ignoring her and after 3 weeks, she reached out asking why am I ignoring her?
I told " am not. Why would it bother you?"
To which she responded "Because I didn ́t do anything for you to do so..." etc. Here we reconnected here just for 2-3 exchanges.
Next day, I see that I am added to the close category of friends in her insta story for some reason, I see the green outline around her profile. I watch her story and don ́t react.
Next day, I am sharing this story from this other girl, who is my partner and who posted how we won a championship in dancing competition (it ́s my hobby and what I do). And then she reaches out saying congrats...

The thing is, I am out my town now and will be for couple of weeks and she seems to want to reconnect, but don ́t know how to play the long game, I was never good at it...Like I want to keep it low investment, nothing too persuasive, not saying anything that fits her agenda etc. Just keeping it alive. So I should post stories definitely, but what about text game?
What ́s the best way to proceed and answer? Thank you

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Utsav Biswas Avatar

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Well this girl can be an attention seeker or she is playing hard to get to see if u are persistent or not and are determined to get something etc. The choice is yours if u wanna continue this or not and about text game just engage her with your stories and flirting texts

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I will engage and see how it goes simply and probe, all you say makes sense

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Stef Amani Avatar

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Yea it's definetley a bit of a red flag when a girl starts chasing you like this only after you stop giving her attention

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avilench . Avatar

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"Thank you" and see what she responds. Also, it matters how she rejected you.

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This was my respond. She sent 3 videos explaining the situation....what she's doing, her new job, occupation etc.
This is already at risk of getting back into the platonic conversation and I want to distance myself from that as much as possible. I remember telling her about my past experience with girls, but never being man to woman with her in person...Is it weird if I tease now and try to make it m2w? Or should I play it cool and invite her out....Like haven't been in these situation
The thing is also, she knows me and already slept over in my place on the couch 2 times...

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avilench . Avatar

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It isn't weird. But you do have to meet and take bigger risks to escalate if you want to make this happen

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A

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Alex has a video or two on playing the long game, so you can benefit from watching those. Just search on youtube

Aside from that, I think just general advice on here : banter, keep it light and flirty/sexual but also you can mix it with (slightly) serious stuff so you're not always on either funny or serious mode

And also (still general advice) don't develop one-itis/get clingy by still meeting new girls. I'm surprised i don't see that term (one-itis) being thrown around so much anymore, but that shit is real

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Went really low key...

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You could answer her question about your trip home as a way to take the conversation into more flirtyness- talk about some desirable/envious potentially romantic activities you happen to be doing and see if she bites and gives you "i wish i was there" energy.

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