Okay so the issue I'm facing since past few months is i approach a girl in cold approach and sometimes it's same day lay sometimes makeout n sometimes i have to settle down for number close. The sets which i number close and i come back home n text them they chase and are super in and I'm their first priority for next 2-3 days and we fix date for upcoming weekend because I don't get time during week time as I have classes n girls have classes n work so we get free on Saturday Sunday so I have those 4-5 days in between n during those 4-5 days during texting sets start going down n some of my sets loose interest in me or they flip n few of them flake and once a set flakes I start loosing interest because I'm habitual of being treated as first priority so when they flake i feel like stop talking to them n it becomes hard for me to talk to them because i feel we met in real and talked on text as well so it's enough sample of my personality to let her decide how we go next n she not coming on date means she has decided n after that i feel as if I'm chasing so i don't feel like asking her to meet again so can anyone tell me what to do or how to text n how much to text during those 4-5 days in between where i fixed the date n we are supposed to meet after those 4-5 days because that's where I'm fucking up
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First off, a girl "flaking" on you is not always personal. If you are approaching quality women, then naturally they have their own lives. A distinction should be made between a girl who just completely disappears on you and offers no reason and a chick who just tries to reschedule. People get busy, it's a normal part of life. The last girl I wound up seeing initially rescheduled on me twice. Not a big deal, I didn't take it personally. If I had let my ego get in the way and brush her aside, then I would have missed out on a great relationship
In terms of what and how much to text, I generally recommend a healthy balance and common sense. A value text here, asking about her day there, maybe a funny meme or two. You want to show that you are still interested and keep yourself at the forefront of her mind. However, you don't want to come off needy and be constantly pestering her. I recommend going through some of my Love Reports and searching for examples. I've had plenty of examples of these. Also, if you're one of the lucky people who has my product, check out section 8.3, I give detailed breakdown of how to text when the date is a week out
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Okay i got it now. Thanks for the help bro. After reading this i feel like I was texting too much. Thing is girls keep texting and i reply within 2-3 hours to every message whenever i come online. With some girls they text you back whenever you text them and if you don't reply back and sit online on WhatsApp talking to other girls they get needy n possessive so in this process sometimes i end up talking to few girls till 3-4 in the morning so when they come on date it's the easiest lay n few of them who don't come on dates loose interest because of so much texting.
I have made a rule though which I used to follow last year.
Reply to her last message at 11-12a.m.
Then one reply at 3-4 p.m.
Third one around 8p.m.
Then 4-5 back n forth message around 10-11p.m. at night then i used to sleep.
This was working quit well but later on i felt it's all about the initial approach texting doesn't really matter that much so i let my guards down n that lead to so much small talk on texting
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You are hardcore overthinking the timing of your texts. You know what my strategy is? I reply when I have free time. That's usually at several points throughout the day. There are obvious exceptions like if we are coordinating logistics half an hour before the date, but the timing of your texts matters singificantly less than you think it does. Also, you shouldn't have to stay up just to text bitches back. Let her get needy, you can text her when you wake up the next day
Also, I significantly doubt the reason you're not closing some dates is that you're texting them too much. Overtexting, can lead to her flaking/ghosting but if she actually meets up with you and you don't close, it wasn't your textgame. I would focus much more on the content of your text rather than the timing. Just text girls back when you have free time, simple as that man