How do you guys act on dates?
Joined tinder 3 days ago and I must say it’s been an overwhelming success. Getting far more attention than I thought I would with over 150 likes on the first day and about 260 in total now . Lined up 4 dates for the next 4 days and got a bunch more keen I need to set up (could easily get ten total). I haven’t even done any swiping in the deck really just went into the likes column on tinder gold.
Haven’t been single in 7 years so I have no clue what I’m doing anymore. Went on my first date tonight (with a girl
Who is looking for marriage no less) and I felt I was a little awkward. I went in for the kiss anyway and she reciprocated and we kissed for a few mins but when I tried to touch her she was a firm no.
She was hot but I feel there was no chemistry at all. Really looking for tips on how to spark chemistry between the two of you. I find it so easy over message but in person I’m just not good anymore. So rusty. Feel somewhat down about myself now. The girl hasn’t messaged me after the date and suppose I’m not gonna message her either. On tinder the next one I guess??
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Ps post a screeen shot of your profile, i am curious what it looks like :)
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sounds like your crushing it man. in turns of what to do on dates, your gonna wanna screen better over text so ask to not waste your time on prude chicks. I have serveral videos on that. something you can do specifically is invite the girls over for a bottle of wine. THaats the form of screening of itself and that will make it easier for you to close.
I'm no pro but going on dates after my last relationship became less and less awkward as the rust shook off. It's good you have a lot of dates lined up so you'll get that practice. I don't think there's a right or wrong way, just present your best self and see if there's a connection. Sometimes there won't be and that's not your fault or her's, just a bad match.
Do you need to act real confident and like you’re the man and sexually escalate? Or just “be yourself”. I am naturally introverted
Basically man, you may have to take some things that might not seem ‘like yourself’ given how long you’ve been out of the game. But no need to overcomplicate it. Being introverted can do you favours as well man, you want to have that chilled vibe. Hold strong eye contact and let her do most the talking, from there she should be more comfortable and you can escalate from there. Try to get a little physical from the very beginning with accidental touching etc.
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Watch alex's escalation videos, he covers a lot of this. ALWAYS be yourself, but if yourself isn't getting you success, it might be time for some fundamental changes to your personality to improve your skills and confidence
Nah man girls can smell fake bravado, authenticity is everything. Again, I'm not an expert and there might be people here who disagree with me, but as a shy introvert myself I know when I'm trying hard to be impressive is when I'm at my most awkward. Dates should be fun, try to say things that make YOU laugh, enjoy the moment, and don't beat yourself up if her vibe doesn't match yours.
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