How do I close this girl...

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I want to get everyone's thoughts on what I should do with this girl. My current thought process is to not text her anymore and let her come to me, but I'm open to your advice and ideas. Have been watching Alex for a long time and his speed dates. Sometimes I just get lost in situations like these. Attached will be some text screenshots and here is the context/timeline:

1/5
I ran into this hot girl I used to go to high school with 11 days ago while at a bar. I was with friends when I recognized her. When we were walking by, I looked at her and said "Hey Jadyn." She looked at me and recognized me before I got pulled away from my friends and we started making small talk. She took my number and then I went back to my friends. I flirted with her occasionally throughout the night while she was doing her own thing and my friends and I were doing ours. She even came up to me and my friends at one point and started chatting.

1/6 into 1/7
I bring that up to lay down the foundation for this part: I sent her a photo of me in my fireman uniform from work as a "contact photo" later that night and the texts begin. You'll see in the text threads where I introduce some sexual conversation with saying how hot she looked in high school and if she stays out of trouble looking like she does today. With her response, I said "I like to make trouble. Things are more fun that way😉" She responded positively and then it was talk trying to secure the spontaneous date I talked about with her at the bar for the next day (Saturday) after her afternoon plans.

1/7 into 1/8
She dosn't confirm and then texts me at the same time when I re-open her with "Hey trouble, how was the thing?" (attached) She tells me she's at a country bar and doesn't respond when I ask her if she wants me to join her. You'll see by her responses how she felt about that. She texts me when she's leaving the bar which I interrupted she was wating for me to show up confirms my thinking with her text "you don't have to ask you can go wherever whenever".

1/8
She texts me the next morning (Sunday) "Hey boo I'm sorry got crazy and wasn't answering" after not responding back to me asking where she was going next. I ask her "how about we get crazy together soon😉" She doesn't respond...

1/9
Nothing

1/10
I ask her if she's down to hit the bar tonight. She says possibly. She does not come out to the bar.

1/11
She text me first thing in the morning "Good morning🌞" and tells me she is getting her hair done. I flirt with "that's going to look hot 🔥" and she responds "hehe thanks!" I ask what she's doing that night. She says probably staying home. I'm going out to Downtown with my homies for a party and I invite her along. She asks for details and I tell her I can pick her up before she tells me she'll "let me know" about tonight. I tell her to let me see her hair and she sends me a pic. I say "sexy😉" and she says "heyo thank you!"

1/12
She never let me know about downtown and opens me with "good morning! I passed out so early omg" I playfully call her out and tell her "you're such a baddie😉" before asking her when we are going to have our date. You'll see in the texts she tells me she's not looking for anything. I hit her with the "I'm just looking for a cool girl I have chemistry with. Great sex and cuddles a bonus" line and she responds positively saying she's down. I keep the conversation sexual by telling her "curious if my high-school crush has a nice booty😉 Let's share a bottle of wine or something soon." She says, "let's do it!" (see text threads for full context)

I soft close her with "are you feeling spontaneous" and we talk about sharing a bottle of mascato in my loft tonight. She tells me she is heading to dinner and maybe around 7:30pm. I attempt to call her around 9pm. No answer. She calls me at 10:30pm and asks me what I'm doing. I tell her I'm chillin and ask what she's up to. She says she is still out to dinner and called me from the bathroom. I sexualize by telling her I bet she love it if I ran my fingers through her hair tonight and she responds with "yes I would." She tells me she'll text me when she leaves to plan coming to my place.

1/13
I never hear from her the rest of the night and she opens me the next morning with "good morning fell asleep😴" This is in the text threads and I tell her she would have slept better at my house. I ask her if she's still down to share that bottle of wine and she says she can't tonight or tomorrow, but maybe Sunday or next week. I go for the hard close and say "I'm free Sunday evening. Let's do 8pm?"She responds 5 hours later with "woke up from nap so freakin late wow" I ask if that's how she spent her Friday night and got no reply.

1/14
I open her and text her I'm going to the bar tonight. She says she might go. While I'm out with friends all night, I see her walk into the bar and she's with a couple dudes. I say hello and she goes to use the bathroom. She doesn't return. I go to leave the bar and she is outside talking to a two of the guys she came in with and they ask for her snapchat and she gives it to them. I begin talking to her and say to her "I'll see you Sunday" in which she says "maybe" and "have a good night." I call her out on that and say, "Oh, you're saying goodbye to me?!" in front of the guys and she says "yeah" before we all left the scene.

You see in the text threads what happens next. I'm not going to let her disrespect me and I'm not about to start being a SIMP. I text her with "I really don't care what guys you flirt with, but don't push me away. Respect my time and if you want to meet tomorrow, let's meet, but don't play games." "...if hanging out and sharing chemistry with someone who wants to give you multiple orgasms and dominate the shit out of you resonates with you, then let me know. Otherwise, no hard feelings." Not my best text but I was a little drunk. She backs off a little and says "What the heck? No nothing like that at all! I just came out at 12"

1/15
I chose not to text her. She's 26 y/o and I haven't seen her since high school. I'm just now starting to get a read for what type of girl she categorizes in and I think that is someone who feeds off attention and is very flakey. My goal is to command respect from her. I know she might fuck me, but I wan her to respect me.

Where do I go from here and what are your thoughts? Is there a way to demand that respect, assert my dominance, and close the date. I appreciate the feedback.

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Rhaegar is life Avatar

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You're putting her on a pedestal too much with texts like "ur cheer outfit😆 seeing you in that shit in highschool I had to hide my fat cock in class"
She isnt into sexualizing, in 3rd screen when you said ur gonna have to punish her she didnt even reply
Ur also trying too hard to sexualize.. even in the very last text you threw in "multiple orgasms and dominate the shit out of u" lol
Have a fun convo with her so she forgets about the last possessive text, then push hard for a close. If that doesnt work, move on

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I agree with you. Do you think she is trying to keep things more platonic or is she demonstrating investment?

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avilench . Avatar

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Your issue is you are doing really poor soft close attempts. Don't invite a girl on a first date bar hopping with your friends. Stick to the original plans. The "flirt with other guys" makes you look pretty insecure and possessive. Massive red flag for her. You had to wine soft close and figure out the evenings she was free next rather than asking to meet on the day of

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I see your point. Get back to the basics and close the date.

The problem is when I ask about her schedule, she doesn't give me direct answers that I can work with. For example, I asked her what her schedule is like this week and she said "next week just busy Tuesday." I replied with, "How does Monday sound to hanf out?" and she says "Can check." before never getting back to me about Monday.

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