Hot high-investment babe turned cold because she can't tell me what day she free

3 Comments
3 Cmts
H

23 Posts (+5)

71 Cmts (+26)

H

23 Posts (+5), 71 Cmts (+26)

I have been out of the game for a while, just returned and this is one of my first matches (Text is translated)

[Tinder]
Her: You're a bit of an angel Hansi
Me: Haha thanks, I haven't heard that one before. What makes you say that?
Her: You just look like someone who treats people right
Me: Always, it's free to be nice, but you seem like someone I would treat better (She hearts this msg)
Her: Do you have any tats since you write about it in your bio?
Me: Yes, a little cute one
Her: omg cute
Her: What is it?
Me: You almost have to do the honors of guessing: it's a character from a trio from a cartoon
Her: POWERPUFFGIRLS
Me: Haha yup, the green one
Her: omg that is so cute
Me: You have to see it in real life at some point (She hearts this msg)
Me: What about you, any tats or plans for it?
Her: I have 2 I made myself, but they are pretty ugly haha
Her: But have lots of plans to get some real
Me: haha live and learn i guess, do tell about your plans
Her: Have more of an overall picture of what it should look like. It should be symmetrical and probably not realistic. Thinking of a few large pieces, otherwise some silly little ones haha
Me: Awesome. I'm really surprised how few people have a holistic view, well-palced tattoos can really emphasize the natural beauty of the body
Her: Exactly! I feel like it's a lot about how it should fit on my particular body.
Me: To be honest (girl's name), you seem to have exactly the energy, personality and style I'm looking for. I think we should plan a date sometime
Her: I love your confidence so much
Her: I'm in
Me: Send me your number and we'll plan something
Her: #####

[Over text....]
Me: Hey, Hansi from that thing
Her: Heyo

[15 min later]
Her: I just realized that you have the same name as my older brother
Me: Haha, then you'll have to come up with a nickname
Her: That's a good idea
Me: I can see you don't exactly live close by, so the question is whether you're up for coming here at some point or we need to find another alternative
Her: I can come to (city) one day, it's not too far from where I live
Her: In what area do u live
Me: (area) around (thing)

[All this was in on night].
[Next evening]
Me: Did you hope for a different answer?
Her: Oh shit sorry, not used to writing via text message
Her: Nej!
Her: (City) is completly fine
Me: haha fair enough, you'll just have to make it up to me on the date
Me: Do you drink wine?
Her: i don't drink alcohol haha
Me: That's fine too. Then I have 3 suggestions, we can keep it simple and just share a bottle of (children's drink) at my place, take a trip to the (shopping area near me) or go to a café
Her: hmm (thinking emoji) i think suggestion 1 or 2 sound very nice
Me: Aight, then we will go to (the shopping area) and if we vibe we can just go to my place afterwards
Her: perfect (sunglass emoji)
Me: What does your schedule look like?

[next day in the evening]
Me: And the award for best texter goes to...
Her: Shit sorry, my phone is always on silent
Her: maybe next week?
Her: It will probably have to be a weekend
Me: And it doesn't work this weekend?

[Next day evening]
Her: No, unfortunately I'm quite booked this weekend
Me: Busy girl, what days would u suggest then?
Her: Either Friday next week or maybe Saturday or Sunday. I'll think about it tomorrow and figure out which day is best. Of course, if you are available on those days

[Next morning]
Me: Super, do that, I think you're just sweet enough for me to move some things around, so we'll make it fit that weekend

[4 days later - still a week out from the weekend shes free]
Me: Yo sexy

[No respons].

Reading these texts over i think it's really salvageable, i just feel rusty and i actually got quite frustrated by the fact that we spend like 4 days just trying the find a day shes free
also - "yo sexy" proberbly wasn't very optimal, should have just follow up instead of waiting 4 days and asked if she found the free day

My nuclear option right now is going with the "I didn't take u for the flaky type" but I think I want to do one more takeaway before that - I'm open to any suggestions, opinions or advice

[Update]
Me: Look if you are too nervous i'd understand
[No respons]

0
B

2 Posts (+0), 101 Cmts (+47)

She hasn't flaked, so calling her out on that is wrong. I would hit her with a "happy (day of the week)" and get the conversation going again if it's been a few days. Once it's flowing again, work on the logistics.

When she offered you a few days she could be free, next time tell her when it's a good time for you. You over-validated her when you said you'll clear things to make it work with her schedule. "Perfect, I'm free Friday after 7 or Sunday afternoon, let's pencil in a time"

good luck bro

1
H

23 Posts (+5), 71 Cmts (+26)

2 hours ago I hit her with "Look if you are too nervous i'd understand" and doesn't look like she going to be responding (since she respondend within 10 min for 99% of the msgs)

The only reason i might have gone for the flake one is bcs i feel we already had the date setup just not the specific date yet, but you are properbly right in the fact that she wont see it that way either

And you are right i over validated her, but the only reason i said i could clear thing is bcs, I didn't have time that weekend AT ALL, I had to move stuff

For now I'll just let it rest for a while and do as you suggest. The only things thats on my mind is if she not actually seeing the msg bcs she doesn't us text msg - but on the other side if she cared enough she would have hit me up with the free days

Thanks for your input

0
B

2 Posts (+0), 101 Cmts (+47)

You definitely had some investment and compliance, but until you have a date confirmed don't get toooo excited over any of them. Keep playing it cool, be decisive and don't act needy. Being busy all weekend is a good thing - tell her that. "next weekend is pretty busy, but we could do Friday night" - put the onus on her to make it work, and if it doesn't, you'll find another time. She could be a terrible person for all you know, don't let her dictate your schedule.

Definitely wait a few days now, and I'd suggest that when she texts back, wait a half day or a day to respond. You need to make her feel like she's less of a priority

good luck !

good luck !

1
Playing With Fire Logo