Hot attractive girl likes me and does not reply when we match and I text her, how come?

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I was curious about this sometimes I get likes from a hot girl (my profile is currently not so good) and when we match and I open, there is no reply. I usually open with a question and most answer with interest that is high and sometimes there are just hot girls who like me and they never text back at all. I appreciate the like and still I wonder why does she not reply. Is it possible to turn something like this into a hook-up/date? Or is it just a sign that she is low interest and a potential time waster?

For example.

Me: What's up XYZ? Where the hell is place ZYZ?
She: no reply

Me: What's up XYZ? How come you wanted to be part of the secret service are you an american spy?
She: I always loved detective stories I thought being an agent would be fun and pay well πŸ˜„.

We continue texting and dated.

Me: What's up XYZ? How come you watch anime XYZ? Are you secretly asian?
She: I wish haha. I was captivated by the series and I like watching animes ;) did you see it?

We continue texting we exchanged numbers, yet somehow no date occured here.

Is it the opener? Is this just normal that it happens on the other app I have nothing to basically go of besides pictures which maks it very difficult to ask questions.

Would openers like this work, when the users in the app barely gives any descriptions about themselves and only use pictures?

I bet you are trouble.
How do I make sure you are not a serial killer?
I bet you are a sugar mommy and you are trying to groom me.
I bet you go to the gym 3x a week, is that correct or am I right?
I bet you know where I can find good wine here, is that correct or am I right?
I bet you know where I can find good cake here, am I right?

Basically assumptions and observations that are commonplace? Is that a smart way onto how to approach a situation like this?

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Matt J Avatar

16 Posts (+10), 56 Cmts (+17)

The way to win this game is to not be emotionally attached to your texts.
Your gonna get ghosted, flaked 90% of the time. You just need to get more matches, do a Boost and start talking to 10 girls at the same time and then out of that you should be able to get on a date with at least 1.

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Yeah, this is also the info I heard from others and from one online-dating course I did. It feels bad, yet I reframe it mostly as growing pains even though it stings.

I detach mostly, sometimes I do feel some level of attachement. My biggest issue is my frame I did not even use Tinder till now. Tinder and Lovoo seems to have the most users here in Germany by checking the data.

I'll post some new pictures soon for a review, also bio as I do think this forum is highly valueable.

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luke perozak Avatar

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This is just par for the course for things like tinder and bumble. A lot of girls are on there for validation and attention and they have no intention on meeting or dating anyone. Some are fake profiles even.

This is why it’s a good idea to run high volume when using online dating. Alex has a video on this for his online dating strategies for 2022.

Cheers!

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7 Posts (+2), 15 Cmts (+2)

I feel the same way, I used two apps with not many users to just get better at online-game I did some night game also and did have some minor success with it which suprised me how fast things can escalate. In this region there is not a larger pool of people to run high volume. Having leads from numbers etc. So, quality matters a lot.

I found the two most used apps in Germany now and I will game them.

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J

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Hot and even average girls are getting thousands upon thousands of likes and matches so there's a good chance your message will just "disappear" among all the other messages she's getting. So no need to over think if she doesn't reply back.
The best way to get them to notice you is to have a very good 1st pic that will "pop" when she's scrolling through all the other guys who are texting her

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7 Posts (+2), 15 Cmts (+2)

I rated my pictures via photofeeler my first picture has a rating of 9.0 from 10.0, my current issue is the frame. I do have ideas etc. for new photos. I was curious about the opener. Also, I had another idea that could answer my own question, yet unsure if I have time to test. Thx for the feedback.

My question was more related to the openers themselves. After a match as there apparently was inital interest as she liked me first and now "flakes". She could have better options, wants me to invest more, is a time waster, lives to far away, has some concern.

So why like if there is no interest? I am curious if you can re-open. As often times it did not work. Even with matches, that just do not reply.

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J

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Don't rely on PF
There are plenty of reason why matches won't reply to your opener. Just keep texting and try things out until you find some openers that work for you

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