Lost my ex due to taking her for granted and then becoming insecure and needy.

She was still attracted for a few months after we broke up because she would text me about missing me. Enjoying my newfound freedom I declined, but later ruined her attraction by sending some angry messages.

Fucking a bunch of girls after we broke up made me realize I want a relationship and rekindled my feelings for my ex.

Due to turning her off so much from my messages, I wasn’t able to instantly rekindle the relationship and became needy.

This neediness further lowered her attraction.

I bought a product by Dan Bacon, made some changes and was able to sleep with her a few times after my initial fuck up but had not fully accepted her loss and became needy.

My neediness turned her off and put some distance between us again.

I learned some more and was able to go on a date with her where I was detached, outcome independent, free and secure which rekindled some of her respect and attraction to the point she told me she wanted to hug and kiss me and asked me to rub her leg.

Left the date on a positive note and received a text from her a few days later about how she wishes the memories could go away, meaning she is interested.

Got a bit eager and invited her to my place to split a bottle of wine but rescinded the offer when I realized it put me in too vulnerable a position in case she declines.

Ended the messages with the words “sorry to get your hopes up” which was a bit too assuming and gave her some power.

I have completely accepted her loss from my life and have other plates that I can start long loving relationships with.

I’m seeking to rebuild this relationship with because is just as good an option as any of the other girls I’m seeing so why not if we have history and broke up due to a factor (my immaturity) that I have now fixed.

If anyone why not her yaknow

At first I was unable to text her in a way that built attraction because I was too needy and saw her through my memories of her

Having let her go I must now approach her from a clean slate as an entirely new prospect and attract her into a relationship the same way I would any other girl I deem worthy.

Based on this how would you go about continuing this interaction as to build the maximum investment and attraction before our next meet up?

My plan is to wait a week and then hit her with

“My apologies for not responding I’ve had a busy week.”

To which she will likely respond

“You don’t need to apologize or text me throughout the week etc.”

She may not respond with that and may throw a wild card but assuming all is the same she won’t be any more or less invested and will just give a plain answer.

To which I would respond

“Haha thanks for the reminder but I’m well aware I don’t have to talk to you.”

Which would put me back into the power position and would probably generate a text back.

From there I would just use text game to build investment and interest until the next time I can invite her out

When out I will build her attraction and repeat the process until she is attracted enough to want a relationship.

Thankyou if you got all the way to the bottom I am looking forward to any advice that can be given!

Alex already dropped some for me but am looking for as many ideas as possible so I can make the best decisions and put the odds most in my favor.

Again I don’t need advice to move on. I’ve already moved on but want a relationship with my ex because I like her and she’s cool so why not.