Alright boys, imma need some serious help here. This girl is smoking hot, just my type and was extremely receptive and well invested up until 2 days ago.
As you can see from the screenshots, she was literally responding within minutes, most of the times.
Did I do something wrong? I know some of my questions and answers were quite platonic but she just seemed interested in the smaller/boring details so I calibrated to that.
My question now is, what's the best way to re-engage? I really want to meet her as she genuinely seems like a cool interesting girl and plus she is smoking hot.
My thoughts on re-engaging now are:
- Busy weekend?
- No?
Appreciate it
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40 Posts (+22), 151 Cmts (+51)
You missed a few good spots you could’ve sexualised like when she said she got back from the gym you said oh sculpting that booty for me, or getting fit for our cute date ;)
I’d personally go with the do you like wine?
(It insinuates and it’s fun within itself plus you miss the chance to bring her straight to yours by saying do something fun)
This conversation got mundane and e reason why is that you were playing it safe because you’re out of your comfort zone with a Ferrari you don’t believe you could drive yet
17 Posts (+12), 31 Cmts (+4)
I hear that. I'm still new to the game and PWF concepts, in general, so unfortunately it does not come to me naturally, yet. I also tend to default back to the mundane tone if I see that a girl responds in that way, especially if it's a girl I really like. Kinda don't wanna fuck up my chances by being too direct or sexual. I definitely need to work on my inner game more and form an abundance mentality. That way I won't give a fuck if any 8s, 9s, 10s don't like my style or texting. Right now I feel kinda shit every time a hot chick unmatches or stops responding. Any advice on how to work on this would be hugely appreciated.
40 Posts (+22), 151 Cmts (+51)
I’m going to suggest a YouTube and unless you’re ready for it you won’t appreciate the game he’s spitting. There’s many that claim to talk real game and the inner psychology and inner dynamics but they fluff around it this guy shoots at you with every sentences, breaks it down to its core.
You got to focus to conceptualise, grasp it and take it in.
realtalkwithrosebudd, video proactive vs reactive
Looks like the posters before me covered everything but two points of note:
NEVER call what you do for a living "boring"
NEVER use "hahaha" ain't nothing a chick can say that requires 3 ha's
Little things add up fast
17 Posts (+12), 31 Cmts (+4)
Noted. These comments and suggestions have been very helpful. I appreciate you guys.
agree with Max, this girl sucks and doesn't sound like she would be a fun time. A girl who brings up dick pics only to call them disgusting and immature is trying to screen fuck boys out.
With that said you fucked up at the beginning pretty bad when you said "I matched with you for starters". What you should have said was "You'll have to come find out for yourself" with potentially a smirk emoji or "You'll have to come find out on the romantic date I've planned for us."
The "I won't bore you" line is super low value and needs to never come out of your texting again to be honest. Make your job sound awesome or troll her about it, I use a line like "Well by day I am an engineer but by night I'm an aspiring world's greatest cuddler." alot. Then you can get on the topic of cuddling and ask her if she is good and move forward to a soft close for a date with cuddles.
You also could have teased her a bit when she said assistant manager with something like "ahh doing god's work; so you must know a thing or two about good wine then?" or something like that to get back toward seeding a wine date or drinks date.
At this point though I think gosling meme is probably your best bet.
17 Posts (+12), 31 Cmts (+4)
So she's just replied with:
"No not really"
"I'll be leaving soon"
Now, how do I go about turning the conversation a but more playful and fun?
try one of these
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"oh ya, starting an onlyfans huh?"
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"gotcha, so what are you looking for on here?"
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"well give me some of the other basics besides your job. Any kids, tattoos, pets, favorite weekend spots, or crazy exes?"
I would say you should probably use 2 or 3 though given you probably need to ease back in given the hole you dug yourself into. Also watch alex's video on the 5 step frame work for setting up dates when on online dating. You need to be taking the conversation somewhere and right now you are not.
I'm going to have to disagree a bit with the other commenters here. I think your text game was perfectly fine up until the 7th screenshot, after which it really started to go downhill. Even though she didn't give you her number you should have soft closed her on a date anyways after asking about her day by saying something like "Interesting. You'll have to tell me more on our date" because right now, the girl has already told you she's down to meetup next week, but you're not really moving it forward at all, in fact, you're going backwards with all that small talk.
Since the girl has told you she's leaving soon you should definitely go for a soft close again. No more small talk. Text her "We'll have to meetup before you do"
5 Posts (+2), 372 Cmts (+206)
You promised fun and trouble when you opened and never delivered. Got smacked around a bit at the beginning and spent the rest of the conversation tail between your legs. Those suggestions no bueno. You need to reopen, not dig deeper into the sleep-inducing topic that she ghosted you on. Good ole Ryan Gosling might be called for tomorrow. Then you gotta Demonstrate some High Value.
"What did you get up to on the weekend? I'm just back from incredibly high-value activity"
My prediction is, she's not your type. Yes I know "big tits" is a type now but she's not The One, and when you stop looking at her tits you'll notice she hasn't brought any fun and trouble either. She's just got you to qualify yourself over and over. By all means shag her if you want, but in any case relax and reclaim your power.
17 Posts (+12), 31 Cmts (+4)
Makes a lot of sense. Will definitely give that line a shot later tonight or tomorrow.
In terms of your point about promising trouble but not delivering, I've had the experience of girls not responding if I continue with the "trouble" and more sexual frame after the initial 3-4 texts, so I thought it would be better to tone it down a notch, in this scenario, given that she was responding quite well.
I think one thing I've noticed is that I need to work on hitting the right balance between sexualising and being witty every once in a while, while also being serious and less playful the rest of the times.
Also, as a side note, I don't think I can send photos on Hinge so the Ryan Gosling pic won't be possible, unfortunately.