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Hey guys, I wanted to ask if you have had a similar experience.

I am currently in college and usually I get girls numbers whether from the club or in the library (sober). I don't drink. I am usually out going

But when it comes to the thought of anything sexual also when she says about smashing another guy, It seems to trigger my anxiety so severely that I get anxiety attacks and I throw up. I have seen that also when it comes to something i see as wrong and that is when I tend to get this anxiety attack.

I am writing this here because recently me and this girl we were vibing really really well and sounded like we could start a relationship together. We didn't have sex first time and we only made out. She came also straight to my room. I basically had an anxiety attack at that time. Now when she left she got scared and worried about me and thought it wasn't a good idea for us to talk anymore because she can't deal with it. I always had that fear of having panic attacks resulting in this exact experience.

That's why I don't go on dates and now I don't really go for ONS.

I have had past truama with girls and I'm guessing that contributed to it in fact that is one of the biggest cause.

I have had sex with a couple of girls and they were good looking and in fact one was probably a 10/10. She was the one I lost it to (she had a bf). I felt that was wrong but I was high that's when I lost it so I didn't have a anxiety attack.

Now I just have this problem of having these anxiety attacks that seem to put me off and put girls off. Any advice ?

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Max Fox Avatar

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What they said... you need a psychologist to sort this out. Print out what you wrote here, take it to a solid male psychologist, get it taken care of.

Being anxious about being anxious has a name (so does avoiding shit because past trauma for that matter) and if you want it fixed quickly get a professional

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J

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Don’t go for the one night stands then.
If that’s your principle, stick to it and understand that’s what makes you you.

Go see a psychologist specifically a male of a manly stature not some dwindled stick or overweight person.

You need to build up your self image and reinforce it through your actions.

Quit jacking off and quit smoking weed. Start going out and do it sober, get desensitised to social stimuli

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Y

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I don't watch porn because I have seen how bad it makes you. And weed let me clarify its like once in a blue moon. I only do it when I feel comfortable

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This seems like more of a psychological issue man. You seem to be really wanting a girl's commitment. I'd recommend going to therapy since it's still anxiety after all. If weed helps, smoke it when you're with the girl

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K

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you should consult with a psychologist

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