Great date, died at the end
I do the perfect chat game, get her to drinks, we talk about a lot of common interests.
We talk about bdsm, sub/dom, fantasies. She is a bratty sub who wants to be tied up but doesn't like pain. She's inexperienced and wants to try shit. She asks some extreme stuff I did, and I explain in detailed way.
She mentions that she's into rapeplay.
We get out of the bar, go somewhere dark and make out and grope each other for a while. I felt like I could go for more right then and there, but decided to take her home instead.
She says, she doesn't go home in first dates, I responded by saying today you're going to have a lot of first experiences.
Anyways she asks me to walk her home, I'm like ok, we're close, she's in my arms. She mentions rapeplay again on the way.
I'm thinking, "Does this girl wants to get force dragged back to my place or what?". Because I have met a girl who is into rapeplay who literally told me that before, but wanted me to figure out that she wanted to be dragged. I decide that is a bad idea, I do not wish to spend the night in jail if I misread the situation.
Anyways it's going fine, we're chatting, she mentions her ex relationship of few years, I mention my ex marriage and I explain a bit more detail than I should've.
I feel a bit awkwardness and then she says, "You know what, you don't have to take me all the way, I can walk by myself after this"
I'm like, "I came half the way, might as well complete it"
She insists and I ask "what's up did my marriage mentioning did something?", she says yes, kind of.
And adds, "I'm not sure what I'm looking for so, you know I should just get going".
She says goodbye in a manner that meant good luck in life and future.
I'm curious if you guys had an experience like this. I took a for sure eventual victory and messed it up.
I sent her a 2 pretty good follow up texts at the end of the night and day4. She hasn't blocked or unmatched me either.
On day 13 I sent her the text in the image and get a response.
So I need 2 things from you guys,
- What parts did I mess up, how could I not mess those up in the future?
- Is there any way to leverage and save this one?
I was thinking of sending a picture of a girl I tied up to bed and spanked her ass into redness and write "This could've been you.."
Go for it or skip?
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Yeah man. Sounds like in this situation. This chick was looking for more like a dominant sexual experience. I would have brought her back to my place after drinks. But also with a girl like that, nothing good will come from sharing a bunch of personal info. Honestly, less talking is probably better. At that point, you should just be physcially escalating and leading
Yeah, agreed. I kind of fucked up.
On one hand, we had so much common to talk about, on other hand, being a dominant sexual experience...
I'm kind of missing "girls to talk common topics with" more than the sex lol
She says, she doesn't go home in first dates, I responded by saying today you're going to have a lot of first experiences.
How would you have brought her back to your place after getting a clear and multiple "no"s about it?
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I'd feel bad if I wasn't swimming in pussy at the moment. But I do want to not make the same mistake and lose a night in the future.
Thank you for all your great content Alex!
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Yeah man, sounds like you fucked up a sure thing. Knowing better, I do it all the time. But this bitch seemed hella DTF if she’s bringing up rape and bdsm, being modest is out the window. Tell that bitch you want to tie her up and fuck her like a pornstar.
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Hey man ! experiencing something sim atm for the first time with a hottie who wasn't sure what she wanted so I cowarded and didn't pull. This one played blame on herself first and said she tought I hated her after the date and when I dug deeper, a similar text came in " didn't feel chemistry / didn't feel compatible ". My thinking is that they don't feel attraction sparks on the date. It is actually normal not to feel chemistry on a first date especially if the date is outdoors as there are many variables playing in the equation. I see two pathways: walk away with a text like best of luck if you don't want to pursue hard or persist to lock in a second date and try to build attraction as much as possible with humor, physical escalation and don't give a fuck attitude.
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How would you go on with building attraction and lock in a second date in this situation, that doesn't seem lame?
At this point, because of her behaviour, I don't want to date or have any sort of relationship with her anyways. Even though we had so many common things.
I just want to hit it and quit it at this point. If that is on the table.