Guys, this chick was hot. Gave me real compliance until I wanted to close. I started the conversation by qualifying her. She was into me so I kinda build rapport by qualifying and date talks. Tried to close by the wine on romantic balcony line.. she flipped out.. calls me a kiddo I think its gone but what do you guys think??
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When she called you kiddo you should have hit back twice as hard. Your responses were too long and defensive and she smelt the desperation. No need to go in depth defending yourself like that.
Also she's one of those dumb broads who expects a dude to pay for the date. On to the next
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You definitely explained yourself too much there.
I would have responded with 'stranger danger?' And seen her response to that. Some women will definitely try to guilt and shame you, but as long as you hold firm and don't come across like you're pushing, you can turn it around.
I would’ve just flipped it on her instead of qualifying yourself. You were trying to justify too much. Instead you could have ignored what she said and just wrote “Stranger danger?” to dig deeper into what her concerns are
hey man 2 things I see...but I am no means an expert but am somewhat knowledgeable... 1) you should have used soft close like "we should get together soon" before asking do you like wine... not a biggie though... 2) but after you asked her about wine and she asked you question...you should have answered it then said "Let's split a bottle of wine on my romantic balcony". For one, you are making a statement not a question which i think is somewhat important... also in the context in which you communicated it she was thinking you were going to pay for a bottle of wine at an establishment and drink with her so it raised her expectations... i think thats why she responded they way she did. if you had said what i am suggesting she probably would have said i dont do that or asked to meet in public but make sure you indicate you want to split of bottle of wine and indicate where it will be so she doesnt assume its going to be a nice place where you are paying a lot of money... my two cents.
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Well said. You should watch more of Alex’s breakdowns. I have been using the wine close w much success. You were too soft n unsure. You took her frame and then you were reactive.
Nothing I haven’t done before
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Personally, I think what she said was low key a subconscious shit test by her. If you just played it cool and said "haha alright, want to go to _____ (any place that is somewhat nice (( like a mall to walk around in, or a fancy area)) then maybe you could have saved it. I mean it would have only gotten up to I would say a 40% chance, but its better than the 0% chance you gave yourself. - Juicy Jester