Girl going through breakup. How to calibrate.
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Been talking to this girl from tinder for a few weeks and couldn't seem to get her to agree for a date. Now she opens up and says she recently broke up with her boyfriend. I thought about saying "Thanks for opening up with me. I understand that it can be a tough thing for you I've had my fair share of that. I'd still love to meet you I feel it would be very anticlimactic if things ended here. Just meet for a drink no expectations :)
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"I appreciate the honesty. I've been through a few of those myself. It'd be cool to meet for a drink & see how the chemistry is. I feel like it would be very anti-climatic to end things here"
51 Posts (+78), 485 Cmts (+266)
Been over a week and she didn't respond to my last text. Should I just leave this girl alone or should I keep trying (I still want to meet her she's cute)
“Yes, but we’ve been trying to meet up for three weeks now. I’m not quite what you mean when you said “ not fair to you”. I’m trying share wine with a attractive girl I can vibe with no expectations”
3 Posts (+5), 14 Cmts (+12)
I probably wouldn’t go for the date so quick. She has an objection and being pushy wouldn’t serve him here. He needs to go one level deeper to address the objection. Once he does that. He can go for the date.
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Appreciate your honesty, had something similar recently. Better to discuss over a glass wine. No expectations
3 Posts (+5), 14 Cmts (+12)
I would shorten the text, it’s an objection and what you are thinking of texting is a bit too much push. She says it wouldn’t be fair to you, that’s bullshit, it’s an objection. There’s something one level deeper. I would try to figure out what that is before you go for the date. Go a level deeper and Maybe say “I’ve gone through similar experiences as you. There’s no expectations on my end. What’s bringing these feelings up now?” Or something like that. Then she’ll say something like, “I’ve been in my feelings and down in the dumps” something like that. Then I’d respond, “I’ve been there. I’ve done a lot of self reflecting and have come the realization that we’re only young for so long. Life is so finite isn’t it?” My move a lot of the time is to bring up how finite life is, gets the girl in a yolo mindset. Then banter about it for a bit and then go for the date.