Girl ghosted me over text. But now I see her at my gym. Should I say hi?
29 Posts (+4), 67 Cmts (+22)
We matched on bumble a couple months ago. Number closed. Was gonna set up date and she said she was busy that week. I asked what her schedule was the next week. No response.
Waited a week texted her again. No response.
A couple weeks ago I saw her at my gym but it’s a big gym so we didn’t really run into each other. Neither of us said hi but she was close enough for me to notice her and I was a couple machines over and side eyed her looking at me.
Seen her there 3 times already. No interaction.
Today I saw her again wearing some tight booty shorts. I was gonna go up to her at the water fountain and say hi or something along the lines of “hey don’t I know you from somewhere?” But she went to the locker room and then left.
There’s clearly an elephant in the room but also I don’t want to pursue someone who ghosted me. Our make things awkward at my gym.
Maybe it’s best I just lift weights and ignore her. What do you think?
6 Posts (+5), 960 Cmts (+749)
Umm i guess i would have just open her with "aah here you are and i thought you got kidnapped by aliens" and she is going to ask what then u can tell her we had good chemistry over bumble but did not heard back from her . I believe humour with calling her out is gonna work too
29 Posts (+4), 67 Cmts (+22)
I can see your point.
But okay let’s pretend I say that. What do you think her excuse will be for ghosting me?
What am I supposed to accomplish out of the conversation? Ask her out for a drink again?
I take it she ghosted me for a reason. It’s gonna be an uphill battle to bring her back in I think.
6 Posts (+5), 960 Cmts (+749)
I would not ask her out again for a few days but will keep bantering with her and then maybe hit her up with " listen we really have good chemistry and connection but we should get to know each other over drinks" now if she rejects you then u dont need to waste ur time by having small talk with her
7 Posts (+0), 42 Cmts (+36)
Whatever you do don't fuck a pick up at the gym or everyone will know you as a creep.
She probably feels awkward for ghosting you and still seeing you, so you need to show (not tell) that there's nothing awkward.
If you make eye contact, just smile and nod. Next time do the same add a "hi". Next time add a "how are you?" Next time have a brief convo etc
No need to mention you remember her from Bumble
29 Posts (+4), 67 Cmts (+22)
Yeah you’re right I’ll keep it chill. Thanks. Don’t wanna make anything weird. Plenty of other fish in the sea anyway