Her-I don’t know what I’m doing tomorrow, I’m busy Friday, and I don’t know what I’m doing Saturday or Sunday
Me-I’m sure we can find a time that suits us both
Her-👍
Me-pick a night
Her-hmm hard, I don’t wanna plan let’s just meet when we meet
Me-you’re not making this easy
Her-that ain’t me🙂
Me-so you’re saying when you went to amusementpark you woke up 5am and decided you want to go then and there
Her-haha no
Context: this is a girl I’ve met multiple times and visited we just haven’t slept yet and those meets have been very spontaneous but unpredictable and not anything to rely on happening. Therefore not wanting to plan a meet up was a complete curveball for me since I’ve never seen Alex handle that kind off situation
My take is to confront it with something like “so you’re saying our meet us not important enough to plan” but I don’t know how I would say it without sounding hurt or so, i don’t want to go along with her idea either since it puts me in a position to chase
I would appreciate all advice on how to go from here and any mistakes I’ve done earlier in the conversation
Edit: the reason I think she doesn’t want to make plans is because she prioritises other plans that might show up before meeting with me, then I need to show her meeting me something worth doing instead of other plans, how would I do that?
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"I understand, ok I am gonna make other plans then"
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That feels very counterproductive to what I’m trying to achieve, is such a push away really necessary?
I see two outcomes either she regrets her decision cause she wants to meet and actually agrees on plans, or else she’s fine with it and moves on. Is it really worth that risk?
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
She's telling you that you don't matter to her. My response is the message you want to send, self respect above all else bro don't fall into her frame
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You guys hung out twice? any physicality? making out, playful teasing/touching? She is demonstrating very low investment. I would say "Daddy has plans Saturday. Possibly free Sunday." Then, I would not text again. If she has interest, she will text you. If not, gotta take the L and move on. If you guys have hung out and you haven't made a move, you're likely in the dreaded zone. I'm sorry to say
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Haha yeah I’ve put myself in a bad position not making any major moves.
Story began with her actually chasing me for like 5 months with me having zero interest. I then gained som interest and I slept at hers once but I just wasn’t comfortable enough to sleep with her then, because I didn’t really want to I can’t really remember the exact reason why. Then I slept at hers last weekend after I drive her home from a party with some sketchy people in. I was having some stomach pain and wasn’t feeling right so I didn’t make any major moves then either but we did make out some. Also I’m 18 and the daddy part is not something I’m gonna roll with yet lol