Hey all so I’ve been getting some dates for the first time since buying and upgrading Hingde (80 matches or so and set up three dates thus far with 3 or four more in the works for next week). I need some help with my dates and wanted some feedback. For context I am getting pretty good investment before the dates but I think a key issue I’m having is two fold: 1.) I initially frame a meet up as a wine date but it’s been ending up being a meet up at a bar/pub and the devolves into a regular dinner date somehow 2.) I think I am overthinking stuff on the date because there have been awkward pauses and the conversations aren’t that sexual/interesting. All three dates ended suddenly and the girl lost interest right after the date. More context: I live at home and dates right back to my place are tough unless it’s very late at night. So all in all here’s what I need answered: if I am to meet up with a chick(either local or halfway) how do I make sure it’s just a drink or two at a bar and how do I transition smoothly from the date to hanging after/hooking up? Let me know. Thanks!

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Here's what I would do, just setup the date at a cool bar/lounge. (Dinner should never be mentioned) you can schedule it on the late side so it's likely she's already eaten.
After the drink you can invite her back to your place or even suggest going back to hers. Another option is getting an airbnb and inviting her there for the drink since you live at home, then go for the close. I've successfully done this when out of town. Best of luck!