Frustrating Girl who ghosted on app randomly messages me 3 months later
I matched this girl in December 2023, we spoke for a few weeks but I noticed she was very inconsistent with her response times. She’s abroad as well, but I’d find myself messaging her and not hearing from her for 4 days then she’s message. We went back and forth for a while the usual talk, then it came to number close.
She asked me for my number, but because of her inconsistent responses I told her send me hers as I had a feeling me sending mine would lead to low response rate, to which she didn’t respond, so I call her out and she sends a voice note saying she asked for my number and I didn’t give it, so I complied and sent my number, nothing..I waited a few weeks and called her out but nothing came so I just left it and moved on.
3 months later (3 weeks ago to be exact) I get a random text and it’s her, so I figured may as well see where it goes, she tells me she’s down to make plans but then it’s the same patterns emerging again with her. I’ve attached screenshots of the last few exchanges where I call her out. This ones frustrating me, I’ve called her out and it worked slightly, then we’re back to square one again.
I feel to call her out again in a week or so, and be a bit more firm. My first call out I kept it calm and didn’t want to sound butthurt, but since she’s the one who initiated contact again after 3 months I think I have good reason to cal out again if she doesn’t reply and just give a final yes or no to any plans, I like this one a lot but I have got so many other leads it ain’t worth the headache.
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It doesn't seem like you were keeping your calm. I'm not sure how a random girl is making you feel this triggered. You don't even know her man. You should have just went for the logistics or suggested a phone call first. Taking your brother's ig to look her up is super suss too. You're not really calling her out. You're just showing her that she means a lot more than you mean to her
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Hey Alex
The problem is that for 6 months I’ve been going back and forth with her, stop and start, including 3 months where I didn’t hear from her after sending my number on the app. Then she randomly reaches out, I’ve been trying to make plans with her, but it’s been inconsistent the whole way, that usually for me is a no brainer that it’s low interest of course. She’s done this a few times before and I softly called her out, but this time I felt I had to do a bigger one given that I’d moved on and then she reengaged.
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I couldn’t take the call the day she suggested but I did try to reschedule and she didn’t give a day/time.
I don’t have IG, and after all the hassle I just wanted to make sure this girls real, she was pressing me on how I checked it so rather than claim I have some burner or I googled her ig I just said I used somebody else’s ig. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal given the alternative explanations tbh.
99% of the time for me its black and white, the girl either complies and responds or doesn’t at all, which if I’ve already number closed is very rare, ghosting is usually on the apps with girls I didn’t get to close the number. The fact that she texted me after 3 months of giving my number out, yet still continues the same inconsistent patterns seems like she’s wasting my time, that’s why it’s frustrating.
I think my next call out in the next few days will be my own edited version of “if you’re not into this let me know and I’ll stop trying”. What do you think?