Last Thurs went on a date with a really attractive college girl. Vibe was good, conversation flowed, we flirted, bantered, flowed to sexual topics.
There were a couple things I feel I could have done better... like qualifying her more, escalating, leading more, etc. but on the whole I feel it was a pretty solid date.
We didn't have sex or even kiss, though : / I gave her a light kiss on the cheek when we parted ways at the end of the date.
I already know what y'all hard core fuckboys are gonna say - we didn't have sex, so it's pretty much a done deal that she'll ghost.
But I don't know. I'm not 100% certain that with a little persistence I couldn't at least get a second date.
See screenshot - I texted her the day after with the remark about the comedians. She responded pretty soon after. Then I texted her again a few hours later "I just remembered..." (she'd mentioned she never had Cajun food before). No response.
At the risk of hearing exactly what I already expect y'all will say... I need some feedback. I honestly don't know whether to follow up or leave it. Just because we didn't get physical on the first date doesn't disqualify trying for a second date imho.
Would love get some feedback soon as I don't wanna wait too long to lock down the second date.
Thanks y'all
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You had a sexually charged conversation that led in the end to a kiss on the cheek? Just out of curiosity, if you went in for a kiss, why do it on the cheek? I wouldn’t say not having sex would disqualify you from at least trying to have another date. Your last text was more of a statement vs a question, should have been more like
“ We should go try _______ restaurant out, I hear they have great Cajun food”
It’s been since Friday, I would go ahead and follow up with
“ If you’d be down to go”
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Thanks Eric. I am still having mixed thoughts about how the first kiss should go down. There is still a romantic part of me that wants to wait until a more passionate moment than the sidewalk.
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Mate are you the woman here or is she? It’s not about where you are it’s about the connection between the person you’re with
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It’s not about where you’re at in that moment, it’s about you two sharing that moment together, wherever. Trust me, she’s going to care less about where you are and more about the kiss
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I wouldn't say it was a done deal just because you didn't have sex. You never reached the point of no return. But suggesting a cajun place was a bad idea. Why not invite her over? And why didn't the sex happen? Why didn't you pull her? All of these questions you've gotta answer for yourself