Hey man, Indian PE gave me a little bit additional info about your situation. I really need to see some screenshots of these flakes to make a concrete judgment, but I'd venture to say that if you're sexualizing before the meetup, then the infamous Texas hypocritical anti-slut defense is the main factor working against you. I've lived in texas for 6 months and encountered plenty of this myself. Basically, these chicks will be DTF in the moment. They might even say filthy shit like "OMG! I can't wait to suck that fat cock daddy", but the next day when they are not feeling as horny, their anti slut defense will cause cognitive dissonance and they will either send you a long winded text talking about how they are "not that kind of girl" or more commonly take the path of least resistence and ghost.

For texas, I've realized after a few months that a much more effective approach is to just keep it vague and invite these girls for drinks at a bar nearby or a bottle of wine on your "romantic patio". This will significantly reduce flaking. Also, if you can get them on the phone or atleast exchange a few voice memos, that will be build investment and furthermore minimize flaking.

There is a reason that a vast majority of hookups in texas happen as a result of drinking at bars. Due to their upbringing, a lot of these girls need alcohol to justify what they really wanna do

Bro I live in Texas too and I can relate with this 100%