Escalation with a girl giving flat responses
Wanted to ask here mostly as a point of learning.
So far in this short exchange, I've tried to add some potential leads ins for sexualising the conversation, or at least make it funny/interesting. She's been responding, but only quite flatly. I've got David's bio and tried the messaging technique by adding 'booty massage' in my list of hobbies... didn't bite at all.
I'm wondering, from guys who are far more proficient at texting than myself, how would you approach the next few messages. My feeling is that if I keep trying to drop in subtle sexual hints and build on it from there (as I usually would), it will start to look desperate and weird. On the other hand I can see this being stuck as a really boring chit chat conversation which fizzles out and lead to nothing.
I'm torn on this one, and others like it. What do you think, keep pushing it, or go the boring route for a few more messages? I'd love to know the mindset to approaching exchanges like this.
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16 Posts (+66), 242 Cmts (+331)
Ultimately the conversation was basic and bland. Typical. But you became incongruent out of nowhere. Really threw her off.
16 Posts (+66), 242 Cmts (+331)
She may be asking if you've been to anywhere cool and it may seem she wants a convo, they usually drop off shortly. So your response should really grab their attention. If you had a story from the last place you travelled to (a bear attacking you, a crazy orgy, etc..) -- some kind of emotional impact so she wants to continue the conversation.
16 Posts (+66), 242 Cmts (+331)
You just sort of incongruently threw out these lines haha She's wondering wtf is he talking about
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
I definitely would not characterize this chick as "flat". She is showing a normal amount of interest and responding exactly how I would expect her to respond. You really haven't steered this conversation in a sexual direction at all. There was only one attempt at sexualization and that was when you slipped in "booty massage" in your list of interests. There is a 50% chance she didn't even see that. And, even if she did, how do you expect her to respond? If you want to sexualize the convo, you gotta go for it more than that
She is definitely still interested, but you are talking about fictional trips together and the convo is a bit boring. If I were you, my main goal at this point wouldn't be limited to just sexualizing, it would be to adding some excitement to this convo in general. I'd say something like "Good. You bring the wine and I, the coconut oil"
And then, just freestyle based off her response. Most likely, she'll ask about the coconut oil and you can follow up with something like "Well, you might be a bit sore after all that adventuring" or something along the lines of that
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Much appreciated for your time and response man. Totally agreed, it's definitely one of my more dull conversations which just so happens to be with one of my hottest matches.
I ended up simply asking her if she was looking for anything specific on tinder. Two days later, her response is "Not really. I'm quite open to whatever... are u?"
How might you proceed to flip this exchange into one with more excitement?
Normally, I use the "kinky sex and cuddles" response to that question. Not sure how appropriate it is here?
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
I think you can go with something like "Nothing specific. But I do enjoy good chemistry and the occasional cuddle"