Did I push too hard with the “kinky sex” line?
Idk it was looking like a layup at first. She was responsive then went silent after we both basically said we’re looking for the same thing.
Something about girls in Michigan man, it’s like even when they’re very DTF theyll still act prude/defensive. Being sexual seems to blow a lot of potential lays out. Like I’m better off playing the nice guy role until I get the date.
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It’s hard to tell until you re-engage because she may have just forgot to reply. So re-engage with the standard openers and see how the energy is.
Usually if it’s that early you should leave a bit more to her imagination and bait for investment while still heavily hinting at sex and escalating. Seems more fun rather than transactional in my opinion.
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"If you're too shy, I'd understand"
You were both being flirty, nothing really wrong with your text considering the flirty banter. Yeah I would wait and then re engage and see.
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Not a terrible choice for a text, however most of the time I think its better to go for a more ambiguous sexual push/text instead of explicitly mentioning it. But I digress, the text COULD work, but, its important to know the little things that make certain texts and sexual texts in general work. "Same. a cute girl, good chemistry. Maybe some kinky sex and cuddles" would've made a WORLD of difference. The difference in saying 'maybe' and not saying 'maybe' is while not saying 'maybe' you're saying that you're only looking for a cute girl to have sex with, While saying 'maybe' throws in the possibility that they may not reach certain standards and there's a possibility of it not happening. You understand what I'm trying to say? Even when a girl is DTF you still have to play your cards right, still have to game correctly, cause again even if they are DTF; you shouldn't express it explicitly that sex is your only agenda. Your version of the text you sent is explicitly stating your agenda as {I'm only looking to have sex with a cute girl} versus the agenda that should've been expressed which is {I'm looking for a cool girl I have chemistry with, if we click and there's chemistry and everything goes well, maybe I'm willing to have sex with her}. The "maybe" in the text changes the entire expression of the text, which is why she was probably turned off by it and didn't respond. The correct text should have read "I agree. Just looking for a cool girl I have chemistry with. Maybe some kinky sex and cuddles ;)" Now, does this mean that she 100% would've responded to this even if it was said this way? Not necessarily, you can't predict how girls will respond, but if you're gonna go for a strong sexual text like this (probably as sexual as it gets) you want to make sure you do it right.
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Absolutely I get exactly what you’re saying. Those subtleties change the whose message being conveyed.
Not sure what to follow up with now. Do I pull back and assume she didn’t like the text? Or change the thread and see if she gives me a clue if something turned her off?
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I probably wouldn't just brush it off and change threads. Probably best to wait a few days then call it out or takeaway. "Not the answer you were looking for?" or you could say "If you're into that sorta thing" although I find this one somewhat weird in this situation since its almost conveying that your answer might have been different had you known she wasn't into that sorta thing. A mouthful but I hope you understand what I mean