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sounds like shes bored to me and just wanting to boost her ego through bumble
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Keep closing. It's still on, you can't back out of the close anyway, so assume it's on and move to logistics. "What's your week looking like?" or sth
If you think it's not quite on then get buy-in on some other detail. "Snuggles and this tasty red, you in?"
I would have done the last screen differently, but if you have attraction and interest, which you do, you don't need a perfect text game.
"How's your night?" Next time be open to the possibility that she's sizing you up to meet tonight, or create that possibility. Reply with something short and high-value about yours, then hbu? If it turns out her night is "nothing much" or "had drinks with the girls but now there's this MJ-shaped hole in my lady parts" then roll into "feeling spontaneous?"
"You should join me .. sometime soon"
Like, drop the padding off this, it's going to be harder to haha at when you say "me too, split a bottle with me on my romantic sofa"
I appreciate the input Max. That makes a lot of sense. Should I only be hitting up these apps on nights that I’m free? I was not able to meet her that night. Had gym and a few other obligations that night. Again though, I definitely get your point, was doing a soft close. I guess how do you make it spontaneous without seeming too eager? Other than making up some story for why I suddenly got free right now, I don’t know how you wouldn’t come off too available/eager
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You tell her your evening freed up. No story required. In the unlikely event of them asking "oh, what happened?" you say "what happened is you won the lottery, get your arse over here".
Ugh I should put a warning or someone will copypaste that and get blown out, obviously it requires calibration
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I don’t have a firm opinion about it. Use the apps every day, lock in what you can, is a fine approach. But there’s another approach where you only ever arrange same-day meets, by pinging your girls in the morning until you find someone who’s free. This is great for reducing flakes. It might be more of a text message system though
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I don't think the issue is you going for the close too soon. There are some other small issues though. First off, you've said I like this and that about her too many times. It makes it seem that you're just looking for a reason to like her which ironically makes your validation less important. Secondly, I think you missed several chances to sexualize/move the conversation forward. For instance, when she says "I love me some cuddles", I would have said something like "Yes, nothing better than some long and intense cuddles...". At this point, I would follow up with something like "Did I say something funny?". It's a bit confrontational, but she laughed at your close attempt. So, it's important that we switch gears a little bit