I am on an online dating app. This girl opened me. To be quite honest, she is not very attractive...with makeup she's decent looking. Without makeup she looks like a dike. However, I feel like if I was horny enough it would work. She seemed more into me than I was into her. I got her to add me on Instagram, sent a couple of messages. She seemed to be receptive to a meetup. I didn't push a highly sexual angle. I said, "Wow, you are cute." She was excited by this and complimented me back.

After a very brief conversation, I said I might be free one night during the week. She was receptive to the idea. The day before, I said I don't think I'll be able to hang out as I am extremely busy with work (this was not a lie). She said ok. One or two days passed and I didn't message her (busy and my low-interest level). I then asked if we could make plans for the coming week. She messaged me back saying that now she has a boyfriend.

This kind of sets off a BS meter for me. I doubt that she could get a boyfriend that quickly, but then again life is easy mode for women even those with below-average looks. I simply said, "Oh really, already??"

Is there any chance she wants me to chase her and is using "boyfriend" as a shit test? This was a few weeks back. What could I say to reopen the conversation? She probably wants validation (insecure about her looks), and my lack of effort might have tipped her off that I wasn't that attracted.