Date went perfect, yet she texts me she didn’t feel a spark.
10 Posts (+6), 33 Cmts (+9)
Lots of making out at the beach with a bottle of wine, making her laugh non stop. She texts me she wanted to take it slow The day before so I didn’t go in for sex. Now she’s saying she really enjoyed the date but doesn’t want a 2nd. She says the spark is very important for her and didn’t feel anything.
Lol this is pretty normal with dates where you either kiss a lot but don't fuck or where you just don't escalate at all. I used to have this exact same problem before but then I noticed that if I amp up the sexual tension (through kino, eye contact, and vocal tonality) without kissing her I would almost always get a second date if I wanted to. Also if you try and escalate towards sex but fail for whatever reason (she says she's on her period, thinks it's too early etc...) then that decreases your chances of seeing her again by a lot.
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That sucks brotha. Honestly, I wouldn't take any specific feedback too seriously here because no one has the context of actually being on the date. When a girl says she didn't feel the spark, I take that to mean that I didn't get her turned on, she didn't want to fuck me. That can happen for a whole bunch of reasons. She was laughing, but was she laughing at you? Did you come off as trying to entertain her (ie you placing yourself in a seller's role)? Was the kissing passionless? Was she physically attracted? It really depends on the presence you brought and how you were able to make her feel. If you want more concrete feedback, you will need to provide more context. I might ask for direct feedback if she definitely doesn't want to hang again
10 Posts (+6), 33 Cmts (+9)
I was not a seller, we we cracking jokes like friends, the kissing was passionate and she kept mentioning getting turned on by my good kissing. Though in the back of my head it took a week of texting and a 30 min video call to finally get this girls number. Then she talks about wanting to take it slow. So I was holding myself back completely
10 Posts (+6), 33 Cmts (+9)
Yeah you guys are right. Before this date she was texting me wanting to take it slow. So her text 2 days later blew me away. I wasn’t being romantic at all. I was a friend and making her laugh. I text her this now though, that I was trying to be friendly from her clues before the date. Let’s see what she says!
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yeah man, this is why its important to go for the lay on the first date, chances are if you guys had smashed she would have felt the spark, ive expereienced this many times myself when i was younger thinking the date went well even tho we didnt have sex and then the girl gives random excuse to not hangout again. this is why i believe you should always go for it
10 Posts (+6), 33 Cmts (+9)
Your right boss. I’ll always go for the lay now. She was just so extreme about even giving me her number I went there and made out and made her laugh the whole time like a friend. Not fucked her like what she really wanted and set up for us alone on the beach.