So I've personally never been one to chase women; I just don't have the motivation for it, and it feels unnatural for me. That said, I feel like I've probably lost a lot of women due to not trying hard enough or being too nonchalant. My strategy has always been to show interest upfront, mirror the women's interest level, and at any signs of disinterest/disrespect I leave. I've gotten good results using this method and always had good experiences with the women I hook up with or date. Recently, however, I've had several experiences where the woman seemed to take my perceived lack of effort very personally. One blocked me for seemingly no reason other than the fact that I took a couple of hours to respond to a text (after she was showing very high interest, responding very quickly, and dtf), and two others were highly offended when they left me on read/delivered and expected me to double-text them the next day to reengage the conversation.
It seems like some women have become so accustomed to men that beg for their attention that they expect all men to behave that way if they are truly interested. I never used to think that women genuinely thought like that but recently, I've been seeing a lot of female dating advice videos telling women that they should never chase men and only deal with the ones that chase them. The reasoning behind this strategy is straightforward and does make sense, if a guy is willing to humble themselves a bit and show more effort then they are less likely to leave you or play you. Chasing women obviously isn't ideal from the man's perspective, but to some degree, I understand where the women are coming from by employing said strategy. Also, after seeing how desperate some guys are in those Tinder experiments for unattractive women, it makes me sick to think about the attention a reasonably attractive woman gets. If I had that many options, I would probably only deal with the ones that showed me high interest too.
TLDR: So for those who have/do chase, does it ever work? If it does work, is it worth it? How far are you willing to go before calling it quits?
