Best way to assert boundaries on a girl making excuses for ignoring your text?
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I have to admit. The most annoying thing for me is when girls pretend to be interested in you and everything seems to be going fine, but then they start to pretend to have such a busy life all of a sudden where they don't reply to text for a day and ignore your message. We all know no girl who is interested in you will make you wait 24 hours to reply. It's like they don't know how to tell a guy she's not interested. (Exactly how Ghosting came to be right)
My problem is I tend to feel butthurt and I don't know how to send a text to assert my boundaries about this in a non-butthurt way. What are ways I can send a final text and just forget about her or something that communicates to her I'm gonna assert my boundaries to show I'm not interested in this behavior and I'm fine with moving on from here on out in a non-butthurt way?
The last few girls I was texting I was in the process of Soft Closing, we already exchanged numbers, but in the process of doing the soft close
"lets split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio sometime soon" She gave me some shit about
"I dont feel okay meeting you at your place so dont mind me"
so I just hit her with "Its cool we can meet at a bar nearby first" and she didn't reply for 24 hours, so I double texted her with
"If you're not interested just be honest so I can stop trying. I'll understand"
Then she replies IMMEDIATELY, how convenient seeing as she's supposed to be so busy right? with
"I'm busy these days. Sorry for not replying fast enough. You have your work. I have my work. Thought you would understand"
She ignored for a whole day but responds immediately with this "busy excuse" when I double text her.
What would you say next to assert boundaries in a non butthurt way after this? I tend to lose interest in girls who pull this type of behavior but I always feel like I hold on because they could actually be cool if we met in real life.
And I used "And the award for best texter goes to..." line on another chick after she didn't reply for a day and she said:
"Goes to you. Because you always text me even though I don't reply to you."
Worth another shot trying?
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Yeah man, I can pick up on the frustration and "butthurtedness" in the post. My first question to you would be why do you feel like you always have to "Assert your boundaries"?
If it's a chick who is being bitchy and that you don't see any potential with, then there really is no point. You "assert your boundaries" just by moving on and forgetting about her.
But, the most effective line I have found to be is "Look, If you're not interested, let me know so I can stop trying"
However, it only works when the girl is legitimately interested on some level and just has been shitty at texting you back or making plans. If she's totally lost interest, then it's really not gonna get you anywhere