Should I just re-assure her? I get this a lot and it’s annoying to deal with. On one hand, I’m not opposed to something serious if the vibe and girl is right, but I’m also not against hookups. What’s the best way to answer this? Thanks in advance
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12 Posts (+9), 229 Cmts (+105)
im an asshole. I would have said "red flag red flag red flag".... dont be like me
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
I actually like this. It flips the frame. If it's via text it might get you somewhere. If it's on an app she probably just Unmatches you from that lol
44 Posts (+21), 550 Cmts (+363)
This is kind of the defining issue of our time when it comes to online dating, from a woman's perspective. Women believe they want monogamy with the best guy they can get. Over time that is revealed to be false. What they really want is serial monogamy. That is a woman's way of having her cake and eating it too. Never forget this. I'll bet anything this girl hooked up with a guy who was out of her league in terms of SMV, & consequently believed she had a chance to "convert" him into a monogamous LTR. This exact dynamic is playing out over and over and over and over for women with OLD, on a writ large societal scale.
So that's what your dealing with, and you have to decide how you want to thread the needle between honesty, vagueness, and selling a dream that she will eventually not even want anyway. Good luck
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
"What makes you think I'm a fuckboy?"
15 Posts (+5), 6 Cmts (-1)
Perfect! She replied this.....
Should I play down the idea of the date as something casual? Or hold frame on having her come to my place? Sometimes I feel like being patient in these scenarios can pay off. Tx again fam
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20 Posts (+44), 109 Cmts (+59)
Be clear with your intentions. If you want to be a gentleman, if you’re not really into her on the date then don’t try to fuck her. Give her a hug at the end and leave it there.
44 Posts (+47), 45 Cmts (+26)
She's most likely scared that this is just a ONS and that you're going to drop her after. I'd say re-assure her a bit and address her concerns before going in for a soft close again. Good luck!