Been rejected and ghosted a lot after dates
48 Posts (+13), 62 Cmts (+24)
I’ve been using unreal photos for a month and went on 6 dates so far. 2 girls were replying after the date but stopped replying after a while. The 2 attractive white girls sent me a rejection message after the date. One girl said I looked very different from my photos and claimed she reported me. I feel that my date game needs serious improvement. I think I’ll try to set up the date at my place from now if she says she’s looking for something casual. Public dates sitting across each other is hard to escalate. I didn’t make out with any of the girls because they were all public coffee/brunch dates.
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393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Yea man the issue isnt the photos but your date game. If you go on 6 public dates, you should at very least get 3 makeouts. Focus on inviting them straight over, at that poiint you have to really fuck up not to close
48 Posts (+13), 62 Cmts (+24)
Hey man I don’t mean to offend you but if most of your lays were with girls who met straight at your place would you say you mostly banged easy/slutty girls? A lot of girls wouldn’t meet at my place and would drop off/ghost when I ask to meet at my place. Also a lot of women aren’t easy they only sleep with a guy whom they have strong attraction for. I’m trying to improve my ability to attract the more difficult women too because they’re probably better long term partners
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393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Not necessarily. My current gf has a body count in the single digits. So did the previous one. The reason you're getting this is because you're not screening beforehand. And also not sexualizing the convo prior so it comes out of left field.
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I understand what you are trying to do. I also read your replies in the thread. I'm kind of searching the same as you. I am not a big fan of closing in the first date. Specially since I already got scared of getting an STD several times (condom broke, etc).
A tip for you is that you should never send them a message saying you had fun with them. That shows you as heavily needy. Usually WOMEN always send that message. In fact, if she didn't sent that message, forget about her.
Also, don't focus too much on women. I made that mistake in the past. focus on your goals, and when the time has come, you'll know when to date women. This kind of thinking made my coffee dates a lot more entertaining. Unfortunately I struggle a bit to escalate sexually because as others have said, if you dont escalate fast, it becomes hard. But I attack this problem, by just focusing on other things. Girls many times end up taking the initiative. Try that. In my last date, few days ago, it was the second date. The girl out of nowhere told me if she could kiss me. I was talking about Politics and stuff, when she told me that. And not only that, but she started rubbing my leg. I didn't want to escalate, because I really didn't felt like doing it. I know, maybe the things with that girl are ruined, maybe she felt rejected, but I think thats the mentality a man has to take. If I don't feel like doing it, I won't do it.
48 Posts (+13), 62 Cmts (+24)
Very interesting man I’ve never had a girl making the first move on me. I think even if a girl is attracted to you a lot of times she won’t make the first move. I’m finally making enough money to have my own 1 bedroom in Brooklyn now but definitely could make more money and move to Manhattan. Right now I kinda struggle with having a purpose in life like I don’t have much going on other than dating. I’m Christian and I’m pretty into Christianity but other than that I don’t have a lot of hobbies. Idk what to focus on really because I don’t find anything other than dating that interesting really
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Keep dating, it's necessary, but do it only when you should. When you do it when you should, youll have lots of fun, independently of the outcome. Like, I don't care of the outcome. If I don't kiss her, fine; if I do, good. Im currently dating one new girl per 1-2 weeks. And im also dating other girls who are not new. I do get rejected and ghosted a lot, but I think that happens to every man.
If I feel I should take the initiative I do it, but If not, I just try to have fun. Imagine you are a complete Chad. Women should be pursuing you. And that does happen, you just need to start improving your behavior, skills, money, body, and girls will realize it. 2 weeks ago a girl on Tinder was insisting in trying to buy me food trough Uber eats. We just talked for some days, and she told me she was very interested on me, and that she wanted to standout, by buying me food. I rejected her offer, because I don't like women buying me stuff.
Anyways, even If I have women taking initiative with me, I still get rejected a lot. That seems to be part of being man.