Avoiding neediness when a response is time sensitive
39 Posts (+8), 697 Cmts (+226)
matched and opened her yesterday. We moved through the date close pretty quickly, but she hasn't responded to this. I have another girl who wants a date tomorrow night but this chick is a bigger priority. How would you gracefully nudge? Generally I wouldnt even touch this for a few days but it's time sensitive. I would use the "or not" text, but girls have called that out as being passive aggressive and I agree. Thoughts?
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I feel like that message is too demanding for some women. If she's not comfortable with giving out her number it's going to lead to silence. I like to say "(day) could work, but give me your number so we can plan further on whatsapp".
I'd text her on Monday morning "If you're not comfortable with that I understand"
26 Posts (+16), 191 Cmts (+106)
The standard "If you're nervous, I'd understand" should work here. Usually I ask for a phone number with a reason like "for romantic date arrangement purposes" or "since I don't check this app often" or something like that. Easier for them to justify giving out the number.
39 Posts (+8), 697 Cmts (+226)
Interesting. I've had a lot of success with this line and I believe it comes off as slightly higher value to not explain my reasoning, but I see your point. I'll experiment with that.
26 Posts (+16), 191 Cmts (+106)
So I just straight up ask "What's your phone number" after soft closing when I know that the investment is there and convo went well. Yet to get a single rejection there. "Let's switch to text" sort of leaves the ball in neither person's court. Are you going to send her your number? or is she expected to share first? Or is she expected to reply "yes" or "no" before sharing the number?