Advice on what to do after first date?
I met a girl for the first time and we hung out for about 5 hours. I couldn't pull her back to my place because of bad logistics, but I made the moves. I met her at the mall, pulled her to my car and drove her and we chilled at a lookout, massaged her hand, then held hands, I was rubbing her legs, I kept saying how soft her legs are, then I grabbed her head and kissed her lips when I dropped her off at her house. She was compliant to everything and never gave me any bad signals by pulling away at anything.
My biggest mistake is I didn't invite myself up to her place. I dropped her off and left... but idk maybe I could've just said "can i come upstairs to your room and chill for a bit?". I was just nervous and I need some guidance.
When I got home I texted her "That was 🔥" and she responded "That was really fun". Now, I don't know what to do next.... Do I leave her on read so she can digest the date and wait a bit until her emotions fade before I initiate contact again to set up a 2nd date? What about the point of no return?
Set up the second date, don't wait.
Do you have any suggestions on what the 2nd date should be in my situation would it be weird if I asked to come over to her place?
I want to suggest to meet at her place or mine instead and see if she would be down for that
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Idk where to start with this man. I need to see how you look & how she looks to answer this.
How many matches are you getting? DM me if you’d like.
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''My biggest mistake is I didn't invite myself up to her place. I dropped her off and left... but idk maybe I could've just said "can i come upstairs to your room and chill for a bit?". I was just nervous and I need some guidance. '' Sometimes you have to do the things you don't want to do to grow.
''What about the point of no return? '' If she responds it doesn't matter, if not, ypu know why.
Just get a convo going again ''What have you been up to today'' for example.
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Why text her that was fire? I wouldn’t do that unless you hooked up with her. I would just text her again and ask her out, this time think about the logistics I.e how are you guys going to hookup if it leads to that point
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"Let's do it again sometime soon". As a side note, 5 hours is way tooo long to do a first date. If you had bad logistics, you could have done 2 hours and left it there
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How can i invite myself over to her place next? Because her place is so much better for logistics because im driving.
Is it weird if I suggest hanging out at her room in the morning and we go out after since she doesnt drive a car and i need to pick her up at her place anyways? she already said she cant hang in evenings so im trying to work with the schedule she gave me and i dont really want to continue being out in public with her until we have sex first.
“Can I come over Saturday morning and chill for a bit? Then we can go to xyz together after” - would this work?
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Try "Is your place an option?"