First screenshot is my (guy) friend setting me up and giving her background/personality Second is full convo log with her. At the end, you'll see I'm mulling over two options : "Great, what's your schedule like next week" <-- take the like as a "sure", more casual "Ah 2024, where message reacts count as replies" <-- won't take low investment, more assertive. If I do this, I'll wait maybe like till end of the day (it's 8am now) to send it out Of course, open to hear any other suggestions. I have Alex's AI FireText app but I don't think it recognizes "liked" messages
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So it worked and we actually went out. The date was okay, we were at a bar and we were holding hands and being touchy by the middle/end, but she abruptly had to leave (had golf the following morning allegedly).
We were still holding hands when i walked her out, when we parted ways i just went for the kiss. we kissed but like not a long slog, but neither did she reject it. So my own impression of the date was that yeah she was cute and she evidently thought me the same, the energy was just okay, not like "fuck yeah". so i had already suspected it wasn't going anywhere
When i got home, she texted first (see attachment) . But, as you can see from the screenshot, i ended up double texting (see timestamps) and ignored
So you can see that was quite a while back, i had just shrugged it off and moved on, i figured she backwards-rationalized the date and wasn't that interested in me after all.
But now, i just saw our convo again so i remembered her, so i'm asking now if it's worthwhile to triple text. Or should i definitvely consider this an L
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"Holding hands" is extremely chodey. don't do that when you haven't banged the girls. There was clearly no sexual tension and you didn't make anything happen. You didn't take risks to move this forward and hence she lost respect for you
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I thought holding hands was just part of the whole being touchy escalation (i was also touching her leg and kissing her cheek during the date, and on some of my other dates it seems to work fairly well). But sure I can see how beta & cringey it might've looked holding hands while walking
Not taking risks though... i dunno, I think I did given the situation ? Like i said i was very touchy with her (aside from the holding hands thing) and went for the kiss at the end. If you mean that i didn't invite her back to my place, like i said she just abruptly made to leave saying she had early golf tomorrow & her ride had already arrived. Was i supposed to insist that she stay and cancel her ride ?
Just genuinely curious what else specifically i could've done to move things forward