First of all thanks Alex for putting out gold content on youtube. It has def helped me a lot and also quick shout out to fire texts app, comes very handy when sometimes I'm not super sure what to text, although I try to learn from the responses generated from it and not over use it but over here in this case, it seems more context would be required than using just the output from fire texts. Went out twice with a girl I found on hinge. Great chemistry and vibes, our second date was 2 days ago at a party, we made out a couple of times where I initiated first and then after that she kinda was more into it and wanted me to kiss even more and more which we did. Lots of physical touch, dancing, holding her waist and all. The next morning, we exchanged texts where we both shared how much we enjoyed the other night, I playfully mentioned about my naughty dream about us, not that detailed it was v surface level just trying to escalate slowly where I said something along the lines of "You showed up at my house unannounced, had to sneak you in, we did more unholy things and then had to sneak you out before my parents caught us" (I didn't randomly send this, I made sure it is sent correctly after lay-ups) And before you guys ask, why didn't I pull the same night... trust me, culturally women over here are not super DTF and besides both of us were bit drunk and about to pass out anytime. And so haven't got any reply and it's been about a day or so. So should I send "Must've left you speechless đ" or should I pull back and do takeaways?
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feel free to show the actual text threat if you want more contextual response, but yeah that dream text is probably not the best thing to send, I personally keep text pretty short, playful while moving forward to date especially if I haven't closed yet
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Yeah no the thread is wayyy tooo long because we met twice in a span of week and had fun banters in between over text, but we made out like a couple of times on our second date, and so it seemed to escalate things slightly, test waters and send lay-up texts made the most sense to me that's why I sent.
I already waited 24h+ and sent her a skeleton meme "waiting for your text be like" and still no response to that.
And as Alex says you can never predict or know the actual reason behind getting ghosted, even after things have been going super smooth. So it's all upon how she's feeling at the moment and how emotionally reactive she is at that point.
I might wait a week or so and send her a final takeaway, but I'm not sure what it should be... "hey if you're upset about something you can share it with me but if you've lost interest no hard feelings :)" or should I just say âHey, I enjoyed meeting you. If youâre up for meeting again, let me know. If not, no worriesâtake care.â
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those texts are not my style I mean I actually wouldn't mind waiting 3 days between text, I think in this case since yall already seen each other at parties, In case yall see each other again in person just make a joke with a smile "ah you're alive" maybe lil unrelated small talk and set date in person.
Going forward, its always best to setup the next date in person at the end of the current date, I even like having the girl text me it so we dont forget that way its pretty smooth sailing
Also, I could be wrong but it seems you kinda need way more leads, seem pretty invested over a girl you haven't even hooked up with yet.