Hey all - Been seeing someone for about 2 months now, and a bit torn which direction to take this. I really vibe with this person outside the bedroom, and I'm not embarrassed to be around them in public. No red flags yet and she's my type on paper (Tall, blonde, career focused, has her own hobbies). Iv'e met some of her friends and she's met one of mine. However, the sex is good, but not great as opposed to other people I've seen in the past. My question is A) When should I bring up where do we see this going and B) Is it normal to be in a monogamous relationship, but still think "what if" in terms of seeing other partners? I've never been in a serious relationship, so that would be a brave new world for me. avilench .
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It's completely normal to be in a monogamous relationship. But the caveat is this. If you ask the girl to be in a relationship with, chances are you'll scare her off. Girls want a guy they can chase. They want him to have power over you. you will get the best side of her if she's the one who asks for a relationship. Also, a side note, 2 months is a bit too early to consider this imo. 6 months would be the time I'd even consider going serious
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Thanks boss. Regarding point B, is it still OK to have those feelings of "the grass is greener on the other side" while in a monogamous relationship? Or does that constitute maybe this is not the person I should be in a monogamous relationship with? @avilench .
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Yo boss