From bumble to text but it dies out every now and then. Re engaged to move into a date, previously she gave me covid rejection. No other issues in texting, nothing previously was 'cringe'. This is on a sexual profile btw and she previously asked me what I do and has been curious about my sex and life coach profile. I attempted to sexualize conversation to make it more than just logical and platonic. What can be done and learnt from this interaction?
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5y ago
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The spanking thing was 0-100. She says it was cringe worthy. And I agree. It's good that you tried to sexualize. But, the joking text was also something that wouldn't have mattered since she already has a preconceived notion that you sexualize during the wrong points in the interaction. Instead of spanking, I'd have gone with
"You've just earned yourself cookie points because you do all that in your field" or something along those lines. And then changed the topic since this is too platonic
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Ok makes sense.
Also interesting that it would be considered 0-100. Like I said it was a sexual profile and she asked me about it and what I do as well so I considered that a bit surprising.
But again, here to learn and stuff like this has happened in the past, so I need to learn about the sexualization way too early. I think maybe to play safe I might have to keep the sexualizing texts to POST meet up for the first time or during the actual meet up maybe. I have had otherwise good interactions go south a couple of times because of things like these.
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well, i think part of getting better at game is being okay with "fucking up" a few interactions. I've certainly fucked up many as i was developing my style and still on rare occasion fuck up to this day, i would suggest checking out my video "how to sext" as it get down more detail