Hey all, I am new here to the PWF Forums. Matched with this girl on Hinge in September, she was moving into my part of town in October. Come October I hit her up and we went on a date last Thursday to get drinks and ended up having sex on the first date. She texts me as soon as she got home saying she had a great time and I replied saying I did too. Next day I had to travel back to my hometown to visit family but on Sunday before I left my home town I texted her asking what her schedule is like this coming week. No response to this day. Was looking to see if people think its a good idea to hit her up Thursday or Friday this week and what might be a good way to phrase the follow up? Or if I should just leave it and wait for her to respond? Curious what you guys think - open to feedback and criticism.
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I was thinking about sending her a voice note as a follow up, asking her if she's free to meet up and explore around town - she's, new and I'd like to show her around. Would that be showing value and not coming off as that all I want is sex? Or should I go the more playful route and call her out for ghosting like Jamie and Chris are suggesting? I remember her telling me she's had situationships in the past so maybe that might be what is coming into play here?
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I see the suggestions and responses above and I just see it differently.
You absolutely can and should keep your power and hold frame.
This is a woman you've been intimate with so there's a real connection at least in some level. I feel that way about almost all the women I've slept with. So if this is make or break time for whether you ever see or hear from her again, I do NOT ascribe to trying to be clever or formulate the perfect quip.
If you want to see her again and sex has already happened and she's not responding - a. She's not disrespecting you bc there was no promises that I can see and no flake involved, and b. I say put yourself out there, before you decide how to do that read my post on 5 mindset tips from a couple days ago.
And finally understand that she may have blocked you for reasons that could vary greatly, possibly including that she couldn't handle continuing to communicate with you. Good luck bro
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Thanks man 🙏. Your advice is actually more in tune to how I am as a person and it feels more right to me. And hey if she still doesn’t respond after I send the follow up then I did all I could and I will not further disrespect myself by pursuing someone who doesn’t want me back.
Will keep you posted on how it goes!
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Hey man so just an update - she got back to me. Here's what she said and here what I sent in the voice memo. Curious about your thoughts.
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