Yeah agreed on all parts. It was over video call but yeah in person would've been way better, or even better just not taking her words seriously in the first place like you say. After one of the in-person BLM fights she left the room and I just went and hugged her from the back, she said "I thought you hated me" and I said "yea i hate you but I still like you", and the physicality made it very easy to move on. Can't do stuff like that over video