Matched with a hotty on Feeld, what to follow up with is my dilemma. I tried to match with her on Hinge so I know she looks good. Never heard back on that app. That was months ago and can't remember what I messaged her on there. But she's definitely my type so want my best odds at making it work. Anyway cut-to this last Sunday and I saw her on Feeble so I liked her and we matched so she liked my profile first. She has no Bio and only showing her (vanilla) kinks on her profile. She only has one photo So my opener was just " Hello mystery woman, I like your style." She's defiantly has seen it and has been on every day. Since this is Feeble and my first tru match ( it's slim pickings on there in my area) just want to get some feedback before I reengage on there. Some ideas: I can’t tell if you are innocent or a absolute baddie? - think this is rewarding none compliance? I wonder if you’re my type... - I haven't had much success with this one on reengaging? Also rewarding none compliance? Can I be honest with you... -Again haven had much success with this one Are you nervous about matching with me? ;) - is kind of my best line on this one. What do you guys think? It hasn't been that long so I'm in no hurry but I also don't want to let too much time go by. Thinking of responding on Friday, 5 days after opener?
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Update:
I got her talking on Feeld I made a comment about " I'll tell you about it on our date." after a question she asked. You know soft close.
She then made a comment about "You are very forward" Now I took this as playful banter
-Cut to got her on instagram after asking if she had one. She added me and messaged me first on there. I made another comment about "when we get together" Again going for the soft close... but she didn't bite
Since then I have not gotten any investment from her. I tried to vibe with her but she whent from giving sentence answers to just liking my messages.
So I lost her interest...
I finally asked "what she was looking for?" and here is where the screen shot pick up.
She said she didn't like how forward I was. I miss read her I feel. Since we matched on Feeld I thought that was a good strategy.
-As a note she said she's into Poly and Ethical none monogamy.
Any help on this one would be appreciate it.
How do I re-calibrate in a elegant manner?
"avilench . Alex you're my only hope "haha
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Whatever you do, don’t apologize.
That being said, even though Feeld is a very sex-forward app, it seems like your profile personality didn’t match your messaging personality. You can’t have a profile that focuses on your artist hobby and “cute pics” and then be super forward/dominant. It comes off as creepy.
I think your best bet is to address the concern that she’s said she has with you in a mature message that shows you can tone it down a bit. Or, if you really are just a straight forward guy, then it might be best to leave it at that because there probably won’t be chemistry in person if she doesn’t like straight forward people.
Best of luck to you 👌
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For sure thanks. The interesting thing and what threw me is that my profile does not focused on my art at all. It’s all sex positive. And I would say forward. Since it’s Feeld that’s what I have on that profile. On bumble I’m more tone down. Thanks for the input.